How to get through the first few days of a break up

[Elmagr10]

That awful crushing feeling.

it’s a short relationship, less than a year but one that was going well. Everything positive and I’ve fallen quite hard despite my initial efforts not to.

sonethings changed, he was suddenly more distant and I was the one who ripped the plaster off(saving him the job maybe?)

anyway I know it’s probably a blessing, I know it’s better now than down the line but I feel so fucking shitty.

for context I’ve been single for 7/8 years after a horribly abusive relationship. I’ve had FWB situation before now but never developed feelings for someone until this year.

Kind of feels like I let my guard down finally and still ended up hurting.

Block him, delete him from SM and do not contact him as it will just opening up the wound. Know that you will feel better soon and this is as bad as it gets. Wallow for a bit but then choose to get through it x

Day by day. This time tomorrow I will be able to eat something/put away dishes/laundry etc...

This time next week I will be texting my friends again.

This time in two weeks I will treat myself to dinner out and a film etc ..

It wasn't meant to be x

Thank you both. I have deleted his number and social media. I absolutely won’t attempt to contact him anyway. I was very breezy and signed off quite finally, part of me wishes I’d asked for deeper explanation but it doesn’t matter does it?

I was so content before him too

I wish I could help with advice, but I'm feeling like this too.. I love him and he loves me but we can't be together, and we decided yesterday to stop things.. I feel anxious, panicky and like I'm going to cry all the time. How can I get past this when I know it's for the best really? I feel like I'm being torn in half.. anyone have any coping startegies?

Really feel for you. Also had a recent break up of a shirt r’ship and had similar feelings about going from content to anxious. It was also me who instigated the end.

apart from the obvious no contact advice, book yourself something really nice to look forward to. Write down all his faults (he definitely had some) and remember that the right one wouldn’t pull the Mr Distant routine. The baggage reclaim website could also help you get past this first week.

go well x

Hey OP,

So sorry that you you’re going through this ❤️

I’m on breakup day 5 - it’s not easy but I was given some wonderful advice and encouragement on here and have been trying really hard to stay afloat.

Here are some things I’ve tried

• Being outside as much as possible
• Seeing friends and family, even if just for short periods of time
• Writing down my feelings at the end of each day
• Exercise - walking, gym
• Limiting contact
• Getting stuck into a good book or tv series
• Avoiding potentially triggering situations such as particular music, looking at photos etc
• Spending time with animals (family pets, or even going to see the small animals in pets at home 🤣)
• Shopping, or even just browsing
• Booking trips/holidays
• Allowing myself to cry and to be sad when I need to!

These are just things that have helped keep me distracted - it’s still sad of course but be kind to yourself and don’t put any pressure on yourself.

Stay strong and keep us posted xx

I am a very similar position - will PM you as don’t want to take over thread ❤️

Find the things you enjoy and do more of them, I broke up with someone a few days ago and it was actually entirely for the best and feel like I dodged a bullet, so I’m happy with the decision and not in the same headspace as you.

Spend some time doing things you like, watching programmes you enjoy, grabbing some alone time, etc. If you feel sad that’s okay … let yourself be. It will pass. Then when you are ready pick yourself back up and get back out there if you want to, or not …. life isn’t always about relationships.

Eurgh, I know exactly how you feel, I'm going through something so similar (7/8 month relationship ended, he was always 'busy' or 'working' so I got the hint and ended things). I'm a few weeks down the line, still miss him but not feeling that gut-wrenching ache or being on the verge of tears all the time anymore.

My advice is to go completely no contact. Break the habit. It does get better, I promise you.