Texting beyond first few dates

[birdstha]

Hi all! :) I have a question I’d love your perspective on.

I’ve been seeing a really lovely guy for a few weeks now and things are going really well. I really enjoy the time we’re spending together and I definitely feel the feeling is mutual.

We’ve texted a lot since we started dating and the question/thought has been floating around in my head that it will probably start to slow down, especially because we have gotten to know each other a bit and we are seeing each other consistently enough

At the moment we’ve been sending good morning/goodnight texts and chatting throughout the day, but I worry that he’s going to burn out on texting or we’re going to run out of things to talk about (this last one is my anxiety talking because when we’re together we literally shut places down chatting away 😂)

I was wondering if it’s worth saying to him “I like hearing from you every day, but since we’re spending more time together I’m totally happy with our good morning/good night texts, a check in about our day, and memes/etc”

I don’t expect him to be glued to his phone all day so I want to make sure he doesn’t feel that pressure

Would you want to hear that from someone you’re dating? Or would it make it seem like they’re not interested in talking as much?
I definitely don’t want to come off as losing interest because it’s quite the opposite!

Do I need to get out of my head and let things happen naturally?

I’d appreciate insight on this, thanks so much.

I don’t think you should say you want to text less. That’ll make him feel awkward when he does and wonder what is too much.
If I was in your position I would navigate it to texting less. Don’t be accessible on your phone all the time. Wait a couple of hours rather than sending an instant reply. It does usually wind down a little and it isn’t a negative thing.

thanks for the perspective, I think you're right. I would feel the same way. Will do so :)

Do I need to get out of my head and let things happen naturally?

In a nutshell, yes.

the question/thought has been floating around in my head that it will probably start to slow down

Why? Because you want it to? Or because that's just what happens in relationships?

If you're finding the frequency of texts too much, take the lead in slowing it down a bit. If you're currently enjoying it, then just enjoy it. There's no rule that states that it has to slow down once it reaches a certain point.

Dont text him at all and go with the flow

Your WAYYYY overthinking this