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Keeping kids separate from dating

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BananaSlug · 23/08/2023 01:27

Is dating and keeping your dating life separate from your kids wrong? Just been criticised for this on another group so seems you can't win, I said I want to keep my dating life and kids separate if/when I do eventually date again and that I don't see my kids and me as a package but I was criticised for this and asked if I would never let a partner babysit or cook for my kids even if we had been together for 5 years (my kids are older and I don't intend to date till I can leave them alone so wouldn't need a partner to babysit) in fact thinking about it I would like to keep it completely separate and not involve my kids at all but I was asked to think how the kids would feel about that 🤔 so is it wrong to want to keep things separate?

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BananaSlug · 23/08/2023 01:34

Just to add obviously they could meet eventually but not looking for a father figure or to blend families. My mum had a boyfriend growing up and he was a nice man but never thought of him as a father figure and he never babysat us or cooked for us.

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harerunner · 23/08/2023 07:37

I don't see it as wrong.

I suppose it's all down to what you want from dating. If dating is about casual hook-ups, then it's definitely wrong to involve your children.... But if once you're in a serious relationship, the kids will need to know at some point!

Thisisworsethananticpated · 23/08/2023 07:45

Who care what people say ?

I’ve been dating for 2 years and I keep it seperate

I’m allowed a private life
and I don’t want to bring a man into what I have yet

Theoriginalmrscillianmurphy · 23/08/2023 07:48

I'm with someone the last two years and my children don't know a thing about it.

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