I want to leave my fiancé but should I?

[NotGotAClue1]

I used to think his age was the issue (he’s older) but it’s not, it’s just him. I actually don’t like him very much. I don’t know if he’s changed over time or I have, or maybe us both…

If it were just the two of us I would leave, move back home, get a full time job and start earning/ living my life. However, we have a toddler together. I’m not currently working. I could still move back home with our son but I can’t work full time because I can’t afford the childcare costs. What do I do? I’m not interested in another relationship, I just want to be with our son. I do worry about the impact of a separation on our son though. It’s not a volatile relationship, I could stay with him as a friend and co-parent. Should we do this so our son doesn’t suffer?

If you want to leave, leave. Sooner or later if you're not happy resentment will start and it will be 100x messier which will be worse for all 3 of you.

Have you spoken to him about how you're feeling? Its not nice, but sometimes it can be the shake up/clarity needed to give you closure... or to make things better. Either way, it's a rough situation 😔

Actually, my advice is to marry him first. Then you have more legal rights. I imagine you have sacrificed a lot for him and your child. Make smart financial decisions. (Oh, and small wedding)

Jeez, don't marry him! What's your financial situation? Do you own or rent your house?

No do not stay in such a relationship for the sake of the child. Be brave and plan your exit now and with due care and attention.

Whose sake would you be staying for: your son’s or more likely your own because it’s somehow “easier” for you?. Kicking the can down the road like this will do you and your son no favours at all.

What do you want to teach your child about relationships and what is he learning here?. You do not like his dad already and that’s not going to change so do not remain with such a man for your son’s sake. And do not marry him either: save yourself the pain of divorcing him after a mere 12 months.

As someone currently 20 years into a relationship with someone I should have left years ago, take my advice and leave. The longer you leave it the more complex it gets to find a way out. Life is too short. Go.

Your child will suffer anyway being raised in a household where one parent doesn't like the other. No matter how civil you keep things, children are very perceptive to this sort of thing.

I'd suggest couples counselling but honestly I think once you're at the point where you just don't like your partner, it's hard to turn that around, because couples counselling only works when you really want to make it work with your partner.

Have you looked into what benefits you'd be entitled to?