To feel sad how my family are c/f DH

[Rainbow211]

My family are very jealous whenever anything good happens to us whereas DH’s Family are complete opposite (they still have their moments, and I do not get along with MIL but the difference is they do not get jealous at all). In fact Inlaws always encourage us to do better and enjoy life.

We’ve bought a new house and conversations in my family are all centered on how DH can afford it (I don’t work so they know it’s his money).

My mum called me and was telling me that BIL (eldest sisters husband) is very angry that you guys can afford such a big house and how unfair it is for them that they squeeze into a small house (there’s 3 of them living in a large detached 4 bed!)

Every holiday we have gone on has been met with a snarky comment and making us feel guilty (I do feel guilty then it ruins the holiday). I just feel I need to be negative about everything. I can’t say yes I had a fab time. I have to try and find negatives.

the funny thing is even though in their eyes we have everything we still worry every month when bills come. Our conversations are always I should go back to work but when we factor in childcare we decide against it. We go on one holiday a year (haven’t been this year due to house purchase and won’t next year either) and I don’t feel that’s excessive. We don’t do big birthday parties just a few kids round for cake. We drive a modest car which I fear will break down! Whilst they drive big brands. I have zero designer clothes or bags whereas my sister will use credit cards for all the latest fashions. I feel so annoyed when they think we’re so well off! One sister asked me for £30k as she wants her kitchen re-done and complained to my mum when I said I don’t have that much!

I just feel so much negative vibes from them all the time. I know most people don’t believe in the evil eye etc. but I do feel some really bad energy from them. Some things have been going wrong unexpectedly and completely outrageous if I was to write about them here and I feel they might be due to all the negative jealous every they give me and my kids and husband.

First of all, they have no power to make bad things happen to you.

But as for the other.... they aren't kind people. You feel the need to apologise / explain away anything remotely positive about your life. Your family should celebrate the good things in your life, not be jealous and begrudging. And in any case, it sounds like you don't have a gilded life, and it isn't like your family are living on the breadline.

Whatever made your sister think it's OK to ask you for money?

I can only think that they THINK you're loaded and are hiding it. But even if they think that, it gives them no right to ask for money!

You don't have to feel bad or apologise. They are entirely in the wrong here. And they are spoiling the good things in your life. I think I would tell them that, and tell them you're walking away as a result. You should be enjoying life / your home / your holidays, not feeling guilty or trying to hide it.