How do you know you are still in love?

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Been with dh for 25 years. He is getting on my nerves more and more. I have started to prefer him not being around. I'm not sure I still love him. I have loved him for so long that it's just an automated voice in my head now.
" He really pisses me of when he does x..y..or z.. but of course I still love him"
I don't hate him, I don't want anything bad to happen to him, I just find his presence really irritating. Anyone woke up one day and realised they weren't in love with their partner anymore?

'In love' is bollocks. They say menopause causes frustration like that.
I would think of all my shortcomings and how he might feel about my irritating habits. Then I would remind myself of all of his good qualities to balance things out. Love is a cone, marriage is a contract and companionship, financial security and shared history is more important and lasting than silly butterflies.

Can you explain what you mean by 'love is a cone', please?

Because I feel it, hard to describe but I wouldn’t question it for myself, I just know.
25 years is a long time though, not sure how I’ll feel at that point 😂

😂😂😂
Ice cream cone? Cone head?

Your story is an interesting one.I think you both have allowed your relationships to idle for too long. It might be that there are some unresolved and bottled up anger or dissatisfaction. How is you communication and sex life at the moment?
When was the last time you held hands, talked, went out on a date etc?
Could it be that you have both left your relationship unattended and your "garden" of love is now full of weeds. Just maybe a bit of nurturing is needed. You both have a role to play here, in my opinion.

@Rejener8 How is you communication and sex life at the moment?
When was the last time you held hands, talked, went out on a date etc?
We don't do any of the above, haven't for a long time.
@Cherrycola29k Because I feel it, hard to describe but I wouldn’t question it for myself, I just know.
I used to just feel it too, but it seems to have been replaced with irritation and annoyance.
We seem to have just grown in two separate directions. We are just plodding along at the moment. I don't even know if I have the desire or energy to try and fix it.