How to meet men without online dating?

[Alicevvb]

Is there any possibility to meet men in real life in this day and age? Online dating is full of losers and weirdos.

Yes if you have an active social life. Most my friends meet men in bars or clubs 🤷‍♀️

Yes, it is. I’m a man and met my DW in real life - online dating was absolutely awful.

Yes of course, go old school and meet them through alcohol and poor choices

I met my rather lovely fiance through a mutual friend on a night out! Have you got any friends with single friends?

Thinking about it the people I know didn't meet their partners online it was from work, friends of friends, out socially. Of course online isn't the only way to meet someone.

So is real life OP. OLD just increases the opportunities to meet them, only, you waste invest more time with OLD before you even get going.

That's one of the wisest pieces of advice I've read on here 😆

Depends on your age OP. The older you get the harder it gets to meet people out and about even with an active social life.

Dare I say it, the library. I was surprised the other week and few nice looking guys in there the other week just sitting on a sofa looking at a book, in the cafe, etc. Looked quite easy place to approach them. Dare I say I'd reckon there less chance of hooking a loser in a library than in a bar too.

Apart from school and university, most people I know met their partners through socialising with friends (so e.g. meeting friends of friends or workmates at events or parties or just down the pub), or through hobbies.

"Yes of course, go old school and meet them through alcohol and poor choices."

Brilliant! 😂😂

Go out a lot and talk to men, smile, seem approachable.

I'd prefer to do this than OLD.

I remember last advice, from here and friends discussing this topic, has been to join a gym, join spin (Is it just called that? Classes), bikram yoga, running or walking clubs.

Though sometimes the male dominated hobby clubs can be seen as bad places to look for a date as they're not looking beyond their hobby. I think someone was talking about cycling club with this example.

Ah, the good auld days...😂

Do you have any hobbies, or interests were you can join groups?

Join a gym with a pool , sauna and classes. Met mine in the spa pool. I saw him walk past when i was in the steam room.

Of course. Just do things you love doing that men also do: hiking clubs, rock climbing, kayaking, gym, cycling and running clubs if you want someone sporty. Art appreciation, film appreciation, language classes, am dram, choir, chess club, life drawing/art classes etc if you want someone a bit artier. Go on singles adventure holidays.

Have a bbq and ask friends of both sexes to invite a single friend along to widen the social circle. and ask your mates if they know anyone who would suit you. I met DH through a friend who thought we'd get on. Another close friend was sent on a blind date with a man who lived around the corner from her who a mutual friend thought would be perfect for her. still together years later.

At work - don't WFH - get back into the office. Go for drinks after work and on training courses.

By pursuing your interests.

There are clubs for

writing
reading
going to theatre
being in theatre
gaming
boating
kayaking
canoeing
improvisation

there are in person and online clubs for most things and the online ones organise meet ups

Or volunteering or work

Meeting out drinking is worse than OLD as you have even less chance of finding someone with anything substantial in common.

OLD is a cesspit. Meeting out drinking is only one stage above OLD.

Yes. Parkrun, martial arts classes, local sports club. And oddly, the local village fete. 😄

I’m 48 and back with an ex for the last year so not looking, but when I was single for a year before that, i met people out and about at parties and events that attracted an older crowd. Drunken dancing then dated them from there. I’m in london though, so there’s not really any age restrictions on a social life.
i don’t know how different it is in smaller towns… I did also have a fling with someone I met in Ibiza though and at festivals. Online dating isn’t for me as an a lone parent, so wouldn’t have wasted a babysitter if I didn’t know I fancied them in the flesh.

These are also good ideas I’d say if you aren’t into going out dancing

I go to music events for an older crowd most weekends and unfortunately seem to just see same faces everywhere.

I have met a couple of blokes at these do’s recently who both turned out to be a bit shit. But I’ll carry on with an active social life and if it happens then it will.

Yes, if you have a social life. I met DP years ago after a concert we both attended. He was a friend of a friend, although I didn't know that initially. I've always gone to older crowd music and dance events (where people actually dance so arent there to stand around drinking), festivals etc and never had trouble meeting men. Social life is a good thing, especially in terms of OLD I imagine it doesn't do for a new man to see that a woman wouldn't have much of a life outside of being with him.