Should I suggest a drink

[loveacuddle1]

I’m single, 45. Went on a lovely lunch date with a guy I met OLD in June.
We got on but our childcare arrangements meant we’d never be free on the same weekends etc. So it all ended really before it started after 1 lunch!
He texted today asking how I am and that something happened over the weekend that made him think of me. I’ve replied and we’ve exchanged what we’ve been up to over the summer.

I don’t know whether to suggest another meet up? Ideally I’d like him
to as it would show whether he’s interested. But he hasn’t. I’m meeting a couple of friends for dinner on Friday in the city (where he works) and don’t know whether to suggest a quick catch up after work and before I meet my friends?

Does that sound a bit needy?

i’m now not on OLD anymore as was unsuccessful and just needed a break from it

Presumably the reasons why you didn't take off back in June are still there so why would you revisit? Has the child arrangement changed since?

Go for it, he's still interested, as are you.

I think a drink in the city sounds good.

Done!

Going for a quick drink on Friday before I meet my friends.

it may well be that childcare gets in the way, but if I get a friend out of it, that’s a bonus. We haven’t done anything couply yet, just one lunch!

Him telling you he saw something that made him think of you is his way of saying he’s interested – it’s a subtle reason for him to get back in touch without losing face if you’d ignored him.

Glad to see you bit the bullet. Enjoy!

Go for it, maybe you could see each other in the week instead of weekends. Not ideal but relationships come in too sorts of shapes and sized these days.

Yes you’re right they do. And tbh having kids means I can’t jump in to a full on
relationship anyway. But it would be nice to have someone to meet up with occasionally when the kids are with their dad.

So we went for that drink - it went well!
got a text later that evening saying he’d love to see me again. Texted back and forward the following week and now he’s gone silent again - hasn’t replied to my last 2 messages, the last one I sent was a week ago!!
for goodness sake!