Tips for navigating seperation...

[Lottiebotts779]

Hi

I could just really do with some tips for navigating seperating, telling the kids (10 & 12)... and working out how not to lose my sanity as we're going to have to live together for at least 6 months (in separate rooms).

We've just decided that's it, the kids have asked if we're divorcing as they've heard snippets of arguments (he told me before our recent holiday he's been having an emotional affair and after a year of dealing with his increasing alcohol problem and all that comes with and not exploding, I lost my shit). I've told them we're trying to work out how to move forward (were going to mediation first before telling them)..but I just feel so guilty that I'm ripping apart our family even though I know it's for the best in the long term.

Someone tell me it'll be OK plssss!

Anyone that tells you it’s ok and a better option is lying. It’s not an ideal situation - He seems to struggle to hold his shit together and is applying all sorts of plasters to his fragile existence. Alcohol, validation, yep, it’s shit. But so is renting a damp room and struggling to pay the bills.

Try to get him to snap out of his wankery immaturity for the sake of your pretty grown up kids. If you can help it see it through for a few more years. You’ll be better off financially now, you can get more years 50% of his pension, basically you can support your kids and yourself better now and then, when u might separate. Instead of feeling cheated out of your life you might just need a decent plan that helps you survive his immature self absorbed wankery behaviour.