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She invited me to a trip and asked to bring a friend

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dhiaxdk1278 · 20/08/2023 20:18

So we are both 25, known each each for some years but we are not close.I moved to a new city and just found her in my neighborhood so we had a coffee one time and yesterday she invited me to a trip, she choosed the place to go to and just after discussing about all( time, split car bills..) she asked if she could bring a girl friend. I felt like she doesn't trust me or as if she sees me a friend? what do you think?

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ZolaBudd · 20/08/2023 20:51

I’ve no idea what you’re on about

User63847484848 · 20/08/2023 21:00

Oh are you male?

SpamFrittersYouSay · 20/08/2023 21:18

Is this yet another of these vaguely worded threads that's doing the rounds?

If not... why on Earth are you considering going on a trip with her if you barely know her? You've not heard from her in a while, you've met up for coffee and yet you're planning a trip with her?

Just say no .

Or if you're daft enough say yes and agree to her demands and see how it goes.

xyz111 · 20/08/2023 21:18

Are you friends with this person? You've made it sound like you've just met them? Your post isn't very clear

MetaverseMavis · 20/08/2023 21:19

not sure how genuine this is

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dhiaxdk1278 · 20/08/2023 22:25

I am a male. We worked together for 3 years when we were students. We used to get along but we were just colleagues at first then we became friends but not close friends. We help each other at university too. I haven't seen her for 2 years when I moved I found her and we went out two or three times. Then I haven't seen her for months and recently she asked if I want to go out then suggested to do a trip a cool place. So we agreed on everything and then she asked if she could bring a female friend. At first I thought she wanted to date and she planned the trip to know me better but the friend invite was a turn off for me. I don't like befriended a girl I may date.

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DatingDinosaur · 21/08/2023 06:46

You've been friendzoned I'm afraid. Sounds like part way through this planning she realised you thought this invite meant more than just two pals planning a trip together so invited her friend along to make sure you get the message she was not asking you on a date.

Aprilx · 21/08/2023 07:14

Why would you be going on a trip with this person? As in somebody that you have seen three times in several years.

Sparkletastic · 21/08/2023 07:41

She doesn't fancy you.

Tara24 · 21/08/2023 07:45

It's not a date. That's the message.

determinedtomakethiswork · 21/08/2023 07:49

You've started a number of different threads haven't you on different topics? I can recognise your writing.

Sux2buthen · 21/08/2023 07:50

determinedtomakethiswork · 21/08/2023 07:49

You've started a number of different threads haven't you on different topics? I can recognise your writing.

That...is allowed.

Tilep · 21/08/2023 08:05

Maybe she wants to get to know you?
A trip for a second date with someone you barely know is quite intense and maybe she feels a bit cautious.
I knew my husband for a couple of years before we dated, but always ‘liked’ him.

OriginalBin · 21/08/2023 08:12

dhiaxdk1278 · 20/08/2023 22:25

I am a male. We worked together for 3 years when we were students. We used to get along but we were just colleagues at first then we became friends but not close friends. We help each other at university too. I haven't seen her for 2 years when I moved I found her and we went out two or three times. Then I haven't seen her for months and recently she asked if I want to go out then suggested to do a trip a cool place. So we agreed on everything and then she asked if she could bring a female friend. At first I thought she wanted to date and she planned the trip to know me better but the friend invite was a turn off for me. I don't like befriended a girl I may date.

Surely she’s making it clear this isn’t a date? If you wanted to date her, why see her a couple of times and then not for months?

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dhiaxdk1278 · 21/08/2023 11:06

OriginalBin · 21/08/2023 08:12

Surely she’s making it clear this isn’t a date? If you wanted to date her, why see her a couple of times and then not for months?

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When we went for a coffee the I didn't feel the energy so I never followed up. I am just curious why she asked me now, months after going out. She did not even send a message.

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dhiaxdk1278 · 21/08/2023 11:07

determinedtomakethiswork · 21/08/2023 07:49

You've started a number of different threads haven't you on different topics? I can recognise your writing.

If bothered don't ever reply to my threads. You already said it, you recognize my writing.

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dhiaxdk1278 · 21/08/2023 11:13

Aprilx · 21/08/2023 07:14

Why would you be going on a trip with this person? As in somebody that you have seen three times in several years.

Exactly. I was confused so I refused saying I have a friend's birthday on the same day. If she asked me for a coffee or lunch I would have accepted but a trip with someone she barely know and a male! sounds strange tbh. And I didn't like she brought the subject, she didn't tell me about her friend until we discussed and agreed about everything. Felt like she was looking for a an accompanying male. If she doesn't trust me, why would she ask me for a trip. Didn't make sense for me.

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Wouldyouguess · 21/08/2023 15:25

Maybe her friend fancies you and she got in touch on her behalf to arrange something, are you on social media?
Or maybe she is trying to be more social so invited you and that friend just to hang out, like, people meet for purposes other than dating and sleeping with each other.
I had a friend like this once whom we invited to a cinema and he turned up with a bunch of people we did not expect.

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dhiaxdk1278 · 21/08/2023 22:04

Wouldyouguess · 21/08/2023 15:25

Maybe her friend fancies you and she got in touch on her behalf to arrange something, are you on social media?
Or maybe she is trying to be more social so invited you and that friend just to hang out, like, people meet for purposes other than dating and sleeping with each other.
I had a friend like this once whom we invited to a cinema and he turned up with a bunch of people we did not expect.

Yes I'm on social media but she has never mentioned a friend wanting to hangout with us.
perhaps as you said she likes meeting people no more.

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CantThinkOfANameAtAll · 21/08/2023 22:38

I am just curious why she asked me now, months after going out. She did not even send a message.

I think she wants you to share costs for her trip...
Say no thanks and walk away.

Missey85 · 22/08/2023 09:31

Lol your in the friend zone but you wanna have sex? Yeah that's not happening anytime soon 😂

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