To think some people are just cheeky bustards?

[Faytella2020]

Not specifically about men but the man I married and then divorced is such a cocklodger?

Before we married he had another marriage. I never really knew how it ended but she took him for mediation over the funds of the house once sold. I get the feeling she paid for everything
When we met he couldn't get a mortgage and claimed it was because his ex stopped paying once he moved out. I think he was a gambler.

Therefore when it was time for us to buy a house I put all my money into it and he put none in. When we split he started demanding 15k. He got away with 5k

Fast foward a few years later he's moved in with another woman in the house she owns. Aibu to think total cocklodger? And yes I was an idiot to get involved with him.

Some people are cheeky bustards yes. Some are cheeky bastards too 😜

But yes it does sound like he's a cocklodger. Just be glad you saw it eventually I suppose!

Your not wrong

My ex is the same wife one own home and child wife two own home and child (had two children with wife two) fiance own home and child wife three (different to fiance) own home and child he goes for the ones with children so he pays less child support to wife two (not that he pays anything right now) regularly quits work and his mother will support him she also takes him back home rent free in-between wives

Sounds like my first husband.

Had a reasonable job when we met. Which he quit the week we got back from our honeymoon without any discussion. Expected me to pay for his car loan which he could no longer afford.

I did take some pleasure from the fact that when we finally sold the marital home (which he had been cocklodging in after I moved out) his share of the proceeds were entirely swallowed up reimbursing me for all his liabilities that I had continued to pay.

The last I heard he was engaged to some poor woman with a large inheritance. Hopefully she saw through him quicker than I did.

Definitely something to be wary of.

Even if you think "I'm not loaded, this bloke has X impressive job", often the bloke is being fairly calculating when it comes to money/resources etc.

As I'm happily quite frugal/happy with an ok flat in low COL area/child free by choice etc, chances are I can afford not to knock myself out working (or be more selective) and consider early retirement/FIRE etc.

Obviously no-one knows the future, but it suits me and if I fuck it up its my and my look-out only!

I try to be more distant now (internally run away screaming)

but in the past I've been targeted by older, more "established" men, who

• "advised" me (saw themselves as training me like a stubborn dog) to take on more challenging hours or career path.

• increase my costs, get a house with room for children (not mine 🤔)

• Make choices which meant I could financially take care of a bloke and he could cocklodge off me.

And the way they phrased it, they were "helping" me, and saving me from a lonely weird existence.

And if I raised any issues I was a a "gold digger".

another thread where i could write a book about my ex, the cheeky bastard tried claiming that because he occasionally got fastfood meal for me as well as himself that made me responsible for his debts 😂

I was called a gold digger because I asked for some money on mat leave. I had paid for everything myself. I got 700 from him for the year