I split up with dp last night and now i dont know what to do next, can anyone help me, my minds gone all blank :(

[QueenofVenus]

I have 3 young children, and i live in a rented house, who do i need to ring re finacial help like help paying rent etc, im completely lost at the moment please please help!

When I had to claim benefit, I did all that I have advised you in my previous post. The benefits office were absolutely lovely. When I had to go in and sign the forms I was assigned a lone parnet advisor. I was dreading it, i had this vision of a witch who would be unsympathetic, look down her nose at me and want me off benefits and into work. I couldn't have been more wrong. She was an absolute angel. She came to feel like a really good friend. It was such a relief to feel I had someone on my side, who understood what I was going through. She answered all of my questions and reassured me. I cannot tell you how precious she was to me at that time.

I did also have an appointment with CAB but found that they told me no more than my LPA had already told me. I got all my info from her, maybe you will find it's the same for you.

By the way, you will also be entitled to free school meals and a school clothing allowance for the older children. The LPA will sort all that for you too. Honestly, I had nothing to do for myself. She sorted it all!

Its been coming for a while cutekids, its reasonably amicable at the moment which is a blessing i suppose, we are just completley chalk and cheese, we bikker and row ALOT about even stupid little things, and we are both to blame, there is so much resentment between us because we both want such different things that we just hurl abuse at each other all the time, and i cant bear our kids sitting and listening to it anymore I know dp loves me and i love him but were not in love iyswim? I strongly feel we would make better friends (eventually obviously) and it would be better for our kids to see us as friends!!

well at least you're being sensible about it all. as you say, maybe you'll make better friends than lovers which is a godsend for your little ones. hope it all goes well for you.

Thats lovely QoV. Lovely but sad. I bet you will be friends again sooner than you thought, as soon as the pressure and expectations of a relationship have been lifted and you can just enjoy being around each other again, see each other for the people you really are, besides mum, dad, wife etc. You are going to be just fine xx

Thats how i felt, i just felt so sorry for myself, still do to be honest, It was a family wedding a few weeks ago and that was really hard, as selfish as it sounds i didn't and still don't sometimes want to be round happy people thats lifes are so perfect
but the way i try to look at it now, is that i wasn't happy with dp anyway, so there is still time in our lifes to be truly hsppy, and its so nice not to have the burden of a dp that puts all there problems on to you. You just have to think of all the pro's of not being with them than the con's!

I remember (vaguely) the first month of x leaving being bloody awful, not sleeping/eating crying all the time, but it will get easier and it just takes time, you are adjusting to a whole different situation.

hope you are ok

Hey everyone, thanks so much for all the support you gave me! We are still apart and thats how it will stay now, but we are still keeping it amicable, and im just now waiting to hear if i can stay here in this house or if i have to move but im feeling a little more positive about things the last day or two. I just wanted to say thankyou! xx

Hi QoV

I have been thinking about you a lot. I am so pleased you are feeling positive and are coping. I will keep my fingers crossed that you are able to stay in the house but, don't be too upset if you have to move. It will be even more of a fresh start for you. Keep in touch xx