Break up advice/tips please?

[littlemisspetite]

Hi all,

Just come out of an 8 year relationship (my first). Mutually agreed, no bad blood, but still really upsetting on both sides.

Any general advice or tips on how to survive, cope, recover etc. would be wholly appreciated as I honestly can’t comprehend how to live life without him at the moment.

Thank you in advance ❤️

Hello OP
Sorry to hear that 😞
I would suggest meeting friends, keeping as active and busy as you can. Spend more time on your hobbies or start a new one or even a new sport if that takes your interest. I have been where you are and distraction is the key!

Hiya.
Sorry to hear, hope you are alright, you sound mostly alright..

My top tips I guess...?

Be prepared for a weird start - weird Sundays, nights out coming home alone, no one there to call, can't call him anymore, everything has changed and what is this new normal? I shaved my legs for this? etc

But it will settle, I promise.

Dream out the next stage. I have looked back on single stages between relationships and wished I'd done more. Now I do make sure I use the time. Anything and everything you want to do - do it now. Plan stuff, buy tickets.

Enjoy the inevitable weight loss. ;)

Recognise that you are a step closer to what will really make you happy. This guy can't have been right. What do you want next? Think it up.

Oh, also, minimise contact with him. It might take a while, but it will start to feel wrong so then, accept that you might need a year or so's total break to then re-emerge on a different setting. And he might get a new girlfriend or you a new boyfriend, which will be weird.

X

Oh I've been there!!

Write things down

Limit contact with him as much as you can especially no social media friendships or when he replaces his couples profile pic of you with one of just him that you took on your holiday with your clothes in the background you will be angry

Reconnect with old friends that you knew before him and listen to your music from times before you met him - that will remind you of who you were first

Book a trip for change of scenery

Take the best care of your physical self - healthy eating and exercise and massages etc it's is important

Write a list of things you're a little bit excited about doing or being or that you can do that you couldn't do in the relationship - get a pet? Learn to scuba dive?

Hey,
Keep busy. Hang out with friends. Do things you enjoy doing. Get put in nature.
Don't stalk him on social media, mute him if unfollowing seems too strong a statement, but definitely do not check out what he's doing. You have to disengage and put some space between you.
Maybe go on a date or 2 if that's a possibility? Maybe that's not completely fair to the people you're dating but its great distraction.
Ultimately time is the greatest healer.
Good luck

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Thank you all so much for your support, advice and reassurance 🥹

I really appreciate it and will try out the things you’ve all suggested ☺️

Will try and post an update on here in a few weeks and let you know how things are

Thank you xxxxx ❤️