Am I being unreasonable?

[Gingersnap83]

I have been in a relationship for a year, I just recently heard that my current partner Aunt is having a birthday party and has invited his EX... not necessarily a big deal but his own Aunt has no interest in me what so ever. I've met her once and she cant be able to even remember my name.
My boyfriend and his EX dated for 3 years and don't even have kids together, she's got a new partner herself but still is swanning around my partners family and posting pictures of their meet ups on her Facebook, even my partner feels uncomfortable. I just think she should have some boundaries, its like she's stopping me from building any relationships with my boyfriends family wanting to still be important in their lives. I'm completely understandable of the relationships people build but I still feel she should step back a bit or am I completely being insecure and unreasonable. Advice needed!

I don’t really have any advice but I really feel for you here and have been in a similar position. Completely understandable if there are kids involved, but more difficult if not. They are both adults so if they want to be friends that is fine but it might be more considerate of the aunt to keep that relationship more one on one and look more invested in her nephew’s new partner. You can only control your response, though.

Would it stop you going to the party? How does your partner feel about it. You could discuss it but you have to feel comfortable with whatever you decide - you could always have something important to do instead of going…may save your sanity.

Your partner is the one who needs to handle this with his family. Has he? He should be telling the aunt that if she invites his ex, he will not be attending, and that he finds it's very disrespectful that she isn't including you.

Aside from the above, think long and hard if you really, really want this passive-aggressive bullshit in your life. Your boyfriend isn't the only man in the world.

It is making me not want to attend the party, I feel his Ex although has moved on is trying to "cock block" figuratively speaking.
My partner is one of theses' people who like to avoid confrontation and as his mother has passed away recently, he feels the only connection he has with her is through his Aunt. Its something I feel I may need to bring up if this happens on one too many occasions.

@Aquamarine1029 I do completely hear that< I was in a very abusive relationship for many years, I really would not like any drama in this one

My partner is one of theses' people who like to avoid confrontation

This alone is reason to ditch him. Why would you want a man baby for the rest of your life?

I can see where your coming from, however it has been been a difficult time since his mum passed last year, so I suppose I'm giving it the benefit of the doubt, however note taken.