DH and I have been together for 7 years, we have a 5 yo DD.
DH told me about a couple of female friends had had before he met me and I have been introduced to them, except for one that always found an excuse not to meet (she's sick, she's busy, she's away). She's in fact an older lady (early 60ies now) with a husband and now grown up children. DH is younger than her and they used to meet a lot and have holidays together with their families before DH's first wife died.
After his wife died DH told me he used to meet this friend sometimes on her own, he'd cook for her and I think she's is a very knowledgeable, well travelled, experienced lady who gave him good advise whenever he needed it.
Like I said I never met her, but DH asked me to add her on FB and also shared her phone number with me, just in case. I had a few conversations with her on SM and invited her to our house several times and she always refused, in fact once she said she was coming and she didn't turn up. 2 hours late Dh called her and she said she wasn't well and fell asleep...weird!
My relationship with DH deteriorated over the years for reasons that are not relevant now but we are still together and being very civil and working through things.
This friend of his all of the sudden is willing to meet him (I think he mentioned to her about our relationship once after a bit fight last year), after all these years she found time to meet him and our daughter. I encouraged him to see her and they went for a long walk with DD. And I can see they are talking a lot on whatsup as DH mentions her sometimes. They met again and I think they are planing to meet regularly ( once every couple of months).
My 5 year old DD worked out her DD's phone password and yesterday she unlocked it and I thought I might take a look at his messages as I did suspect messages late in the night, sometimes early in the morning.
The two of them are talking regularly and I can see over the last few months the messages are getting friendlier from her side, with lots of love hearts 💜 after each message. He was a bit more friendly in the beginning but his messages are now quite dry.
So, about 7:45 am, she'd send a pic of half of her messy bed with a beautiful balcony and the sea in the background, saying 'enjoying my morning with a cup of tea in bed 💕💕, then she'd go into details about her day, her plans, what everyone is doing...his reply is always :lovely, have a great time! And I find the whole thing so weird. This happens regularly and I found it quite flirtatious, would you send a pic like that to your male friend first thing in the morning? I wouldn't, I found it a bit ... 😵💫
I should say I'm not in the least upset about it, not sure why. Perhaps it's because I don't think he ever found her attractive, he always unkindly comments on her weight issues as well, but I do think he likes her as a friend. But I find the whole situation so weird and it kind of makes sense why she never wanted to meet me (we moved house 4 years ago and she's only about 15 mins drive from us now).
What do you think?