Hello all, this is a follow on from an earlier post of mine.
My fiance and I are 27 and have been dating for 5 years and engaged for 4. We've been living together for 3 years in my parents house due to financial reasons.
When we first moved in, everything was great, even now things are good, but there have been some issues such as lack of sexual intimacy due to some issues, lack of quality time, and even though I don't question our love for each other, a general - feeling like roommates rather than a relationship- feeling. As we're living at my parents house, we're pretty much locked up in a single room, so you can guess how on top of each other we are.
Despite these issues, otherwise we are pretty rock solid. We've never fought, we communicate our issues and we take care of each other physically and emotionally.
Things came to a head last week and told him that I was thinking about if a break for us would be a good idea. A sort of reset. He completely agreed and understood my reasoning behind it and saw it as a good opportunity for us.
We're now waiting on getting some help on family to help him move back to his parents.
The plan is for us to take a month without visiting each other while we still communicate regularly. Then we'll "reset" and see each other three times a week - life permitting and that will carry on until we can afford a place of our own. This will give us time to work on ourselves and re-establish some indepandancy, give us more room for ourselves. We're hoping this will bring a spark back and make us see this relationship and what we have together in a new light.
Here's the kicker, even though this was my idea, I'm terrified. I'm begining to regret bringing the whole idea up in the first place. It feels like such a step back for us. I know it's what we need, we needed things to change, but I'm just so anxious about it all.
I'm just really sad about the whole thing and will miss him alot. If anyone has some good happy ending stories / reassure me that I did the right thing, please comment
Thank you <3