DP is the sort of man people assume is just miserable, anti-social, serious and generally unapproachable, and they joke about it with him because that is his demeanor. When I met him and mostly up until pregnancy he was a very different person with me (soft, funny, etc), and all his friends commented on how much happier he was with me than he had been previously/with his previous girlfriend.
I know parenthood usually changes the dynamics of most relationships on some level, but he is different now. He is practically supportive of me, as in he'll facilitate me going to the gym or going to an appointment with regards to childcare, and he'll go and pick up shopping for me or whatever, I can't deny him of that. But that's where it stops, it's like he's emotionally checked out. We barely talk and half the time he's on his phone anyway when I'm trying to talk to him, and when I do I often don't really get a response (he says he doesn't know what to say). Never ever ever will offer me a hug, a kiss, anything affectionate. Free time in the evenings he plays Fifa than us spending any quality time together. Has stopped complimenting me or saying anything affectionate. Texts are short, to the point and without any kisses all of a sudden. I so much as mentioned his birthday coming up and his immediate reaction was "don't bother getting me anything", even though I was going to suggest we go to a spa for the day or something together. I feel like he's doing what he has to do to be able to justify to himself that he's supporting his family because he does see that as a core value and responsibility, but otherwise he's wishing his circumstances were different.
Conversation went briefly down that road as he was leaving on the back end of talking about something else and he has no idea what I'm talking about. In that I said "you could cut the air with a knife between us" and he's oblivious. I'm very much the opposite sort of person to him so my demeanor probably hasn't changed but I honestly can't fathom how he can not just feel that we're completely off kilter with one another.
I have no idea how to put it to him to make him see why I currently feel like I do.