Advice on divorce please

[Bringthewave]

After a separation of 2.5 years, my husband has informed me that he started divorce proceeding and I should receive a divorce application within 4 weeks. He proposed to discuss finances. He owns the property and has been paying for mortgage for the duration of the marriage. I have recently applied for child maintenance and was awarded the maximum payment. We share DS4 who he visit no more than 3 times a year. Is it best to agree to discuss finances now or wait to receive the petition, have advice from a solicitor and then arrange a chat? We are on bad terms because of his cheating, abandonment of DS and his attempt to kick me and DS out of the house. There is a chance we may not agree on finances..

Well it’s always worth getting some initial legal advice so you are armed with information

they wont be able to tell you exactly, but give a range of options and outcomes

its also reasonable to discuss with your ex and see what he’s proposing so you get a view on this without having to agree anything

its perfectly reasonable for him to want it to sort finances now, which may ultimately mean you becoming responsible for paying your own way going forward….. and house might need to be sold.

There is a Divorce board which you may want to post in for more specific advice. There are also Advice Now guides pinned to the top of that board. Finances depend on lot of different factors, including length of the marriage, but you may be entitled to some of the equity in the house even though he has been paying the mortgage. Get legal advice before you speak to him so you know what is reasonable to expect.

Thank you. I'll have a look at the board.