Reposting this here as I need more opinions and advice, I posted this last night. Sorry its long
DS is 14, he told me he thought he was bisexual at the start of the year, I obviously told him I accepted him and that was that.
A few months ago, I noticed he started making more of an effort in his appearance, doing his hair and wearing aftershave and brushing his teeth without me having to remind him. I asked him if he was in a relationship and he said no. A month ago he came to me and told me he has a boyfriend, I told him to invite him around for dinner and DS made excuses about him being busy and then it was that he was shy etc etc. I met him about 2 weeks ago and I was an expecting a boy like DS however he was tall and looked older than him. DS told me he was 15 when I asked. He carried on saying this everytime until I got it out of him that he was 16 and turning 17 in a few months, therefore starting sixth form.
A few days ago he admitted he met this boy online on an app called ‘wizz’ which is an app for teens to make friends on apparently which I find very strange and potentially dangerous. I do check his phone every 2 weeks and he knows this so this app was never on there when I was checking it. I was unhappy and he told me he doesn't use it anymore as he's in a relationship so it sounded a lot like he was looking for a relationship on there.
Today he went out and I told him to be back by 9, I'm unsure if this was right as I'm struggling to find a time for him to be back home by. 9pm came and he wasn't home so I messaged to see where he was and he told me at x’s (his friend) house, I didn't believe him so I messaged their mum and she confirmed that he wasn't. He said he was at his boyfriends and wasn't coming home until 10:30 as they were watching a film. He wouldn't give me the address so I could pick him up so got the mum to drop him off and didn't get back until after 11.
He gave me a lot of attitude about him doing what he wants, told me to leave him alone and whilst I was talking to him about starting out late he was smirking and said he'll do it again. This behaviour isn't like him.
I've taken his phone and told him he can't see his boyfriend which he has said is unfair and then he started crying so I do feel a bit bad now.
Was I BU?