Family

[Allwork]

Sorry I'm gonna have a rant .
Hubby ok yesterday happy etc today was ok I'm morning then went out take dog for a walk came back and started being horrid . I'm like what happened to you whilst out 🤷🏽‍♀️. Ended in argument me blaming him him blaming me etc etc every weekend it's the same stupid silly arguments . He seems so ratty and I feel I'm walking on eggshells around him .
Planned to go upto mums with DD age 27 after she had done her 4 hour shift 12-4. She's come in gone straight to bed saying she's tired and not going to visit my mum . She treats the house like a bloody hotel doesn't work full time and sleeps everyday when she comes home .
Last night I stayed up waiting for her to get home and at 230 went to fetch her from a friends house . I worry about her getting taxis on her own . This makes me so mad as I'm tired too today but will make the effort to see my mum she just cba and lives for going to sleep .
What with miserable bastard hubby and selfish DD I feel proper pissed off . Am I being unreasonable 🤷🏽‍♀️

You talk to her, let her know what she needs to do to keep the household running (eg shopping, cleaning), then you leave it up to her. If she doesn't do it, you ask her to leave.

If she has no SN, this should not come as a shock to her...

Maybe you should sit them both down and have a really serious chat about YOUR expectations. It sounds as if they're both running roughshod over you and treating you like rubbish.
Time for change.

I think you just need to tell him to stop his shitty moods, you're not his emotional punch bag, and if he doesn't you'll be leaving.

IME this stops the moods. (But he'll still be a knob if he is just a knob).

Your daughter has observed how he treats you and is now jumping on the bandwagon. Don't let them treat you badly.

@Allwork I meant that your hard work in the house and with HIS daughter too , means he can do whatever he wants to. Shouldn't talk nasty to you , you could leave the arsey bugger.