Splitting the bill

[Sara1003]

I have been seeing this guy who is nearly 50. He earns 3 times my salary. He always makes sure we pay even amounts but this sometimes ends up as me paying more. For example he will pay for dinner but I have to pay for 2 lunches to make it up. We recently went away in a tent and he asked for half the petrol. I always drive to his and never ask for this plus sometimes I treat friends and don’t expect anything in return.
Should I be wary of this or am I being unfair.

Just split the bill when it arrives, then you are quits after every meal.

I sometime ask for petrol money, I recently did a 500 mile round trip, and got money off the people in the car.

You have to pay half for everything or 2 lunches to balance it out.. then he takes you on holiday in a tent. Wow this guy is a prince 🙄

Petrol money!? Seriously, tighter than cramp.
As previous poster said, stop using your petrol to visit him and see what effort he makes.

@NewStartNow , tighter than cramp is wonderful, I shall use it regularly!

Massive uck territory for me.
Sounds like he has a spread sheet at home where he records every penny he spend together.
Throw this one back !

Red flags to me. And I would not start paying for my own meals all the time, asking the waiter for two separate bills

I would proceed with caution if I were you. The vibes don't sound good.

Ask for separate bills and really pay your own way not what he thinks

Normal for some people I’m sure (I have witnessed on more than one occasion people whipping out a calculator in a restaurant to calculate their share of the bill) but I find it awfully unattractive in a partner/potential partner. I am financially independent and more than capable of and always do, pay my own way, but I absolutely would not date a man who did this. Ick territory for me.

He sounds mean.

Listen to your gut.

Very unattractive. I think it’s perfectly fine and preferable to me to split things especially in the beginning but this is just being tight.

I did once split the bill with someone and as we were both paying in cash they ended up paying something like 40p more than me as it was just easier that way and they brought it up weeks later saying I owed them 20p 😂.

Big red flags. Sharing costs initially is fine, but he shouldn’t be asking you contribute to the petrol. He’s tight. Throw him back.