MIL asks for gifts!

[Bobbypin55]

Maybe I’m being dramatic, but I’m getting to the point where I feel like confronting my mil!
every single year, for her birthday & Xmas she will ask my husband and I for specific gifts for herself (these gifts being expensive designer stuff/perfume sets) I don’t mind buying for her but the way she goes about it I find disgusting. I wouldn’t dream of asking our children for gifts, even if they offered i wouldn’t mention anything expensive!
they’re getting married next month, and she’s asked for expensive necklace & earrings and also a watch for the FIL!
We had our DD 2 weeks ago and all she talks about is what we can buy them for their wedding!
ive told my husband that I find it rude and he just says things like “well they helped us out for our wedding” (which 1. We didn’t ask for anything and 2. I can’t help but feel like it’s kind of a parents thing to do and we declined the help in a polite way at first)
maybe I’m just being silly but it’s really starting to piss me off 😴

You ANBU! I would politely suggest that its out of your price range considering you’ve just had a child and they can like it or lump it!

Yes, I'd tell her you can't afford it.

“We have just had your grandchild and money is tight. Happy to get you something else like a new ((fancy clock or whatever)”

This

Tell them what your budget is and they can either choose a gift within that budget, you give them cash/voucher or get something of your own choosing

It’s the fact it’s asked for, I find it so rude and uncomfortable, but to her it seems so normal 🫤

This is the perfect time to say 1.sorry we’ve already seen some things that we’ve got for your wedding. OR I’m sorry but we’ve just had DD we can not afford anything like this at the moment this is why we where happy to spoil everyone before as we knew once DD was her we wouldn't be able to. She taken advantage and got away with it hence why she’s carried on. Never been told no. Take one for the team and tell her we’re not going to be able to purchase this. Tell your husband your hormonal and not to question this. That or buy what you want and then WHEN the rude lady comments explain we can’t justify the extra spend we now have to think about extra expenses in the future for our DD. It’s a no brainer no matter what income you have. SIMPLE. Parents should want any extra cash to go on there children! That’s taking money away from your DD. Once again remind hubby to not even comment on this your word is final!