How to get through today without a divorce

[Jeppajig]

I start a new job on Monday. Feeling quite stressed. Haven’t had much time to prepare because I‘ve been looking after DC with zero help from family as always.

Relying on DH to look after them this weekend so I can get ready. But he’s woken up this morning with The Flu. He’s still managed to get up and have breakfast and tidy up the living room and take out the bins. So I’m guessing it’s just a cold.

He lets out a big sigh every 5 fucking seconds to let me know how ill he really is. Every 5 minute on the dot it’s ‘ I really don’t feel great’. The running commentary is making me want to strangle him.

I started my period this morning so I‘ll be feeling dizzy (I have heavy periods) and crampy. Like I do every month. So I‘m feeling extra snappy with zero patience for DH.

This thread is not deadly serious so please don’t bash me. I need somewhere to rant so I don’t shout at him and get accused of being cold and uncaring.

What's the job, what do you need to do to prepare? How old are the kids?

My DH is always the same! I always ask "oh really what have you taken for it?!" and the answer is always nothing, which shuts him up.

Congrats on the new job!

Oh OP, I used to have a husband that was suddenly ill whenever I was or when I needed him. I never cracked it so no advice from me on that front, just lots of sympathy.

Heavy periods I also get and my advice would be eat whatever you fancy today and rest as much as possible - even if that means 'movie day' on the couch with the kids.

Very best of luck for your new job on Monday

Rant away, we've all been there. It seems sometimes when you really want things to go smoothly, everything conspires to fuck you up.

It‘s a type of tutoring job (being vague, sorry). So need to finalise what I‘ll be doing and make sure everything is printed out etc. Kids are 6 and 3

Yes exactly this! He said he had a terrible headache but won’t take paracetamol!!

Thank you :)

Thank you so much :)

In that case I wouldn't even entertain him not stepping up, well, no, not even stepping up - parenting his own children! We all have to suck it up sometimes when we're not feeling 100%, and sounds like you have to do this regularly with heavy periods.

If you can, I'd just take yourself off somewhere, another room or something, shut the door and tell him he needs to get on with it. And if he really won't let you get on with what you need to do, could you leave the house and do it somewhere else, coffee shop, library?

You have my condolences, my DH has had man flu this week and is nearly better, now adult DS2 has it. I went shopping got paracetamol, lemsip, throat sweets, decongestants, vic rub, but unless I tell them to take it, they don’t bother, just moan about how ill they are. Good luck with the new job.

Sorry, @Jeppajig just realised coffee shop won't work for printing...but maybe all the prep getting everything ready to print.

Good luck with the new job!

I am pleased to announce that DH has made a miraculous recovery. The Sigh of Doom has ceased and our marriage (and my nerves) are still intact!