Been with DH 10 years, one young toddler.
I’m finding his moods really difficult to deal with. He’s not angry or anything like that, but he literally looks miserable most of the time and I’m finding it hard to be around.
he comes home from work and has a face on, barely talks, barely looks at me, answers in one word sentences. Doesn’t ask me how my day was. Looks angrily at the tv if I have something on that isn’t something he put on. He’s not outwardly angry but I can see it in his face. It isn’t helping that I’m asking what’s wrong often but I can’t help it because you can cut the atmosphere with a knife.
he doesn’t open up in general, it’s the way he is, very emotionally shut off. Always has been.
I’ve asked him if he’s unhappy with me, he says no. He says everything is fine. Gets more annoyed if I try to push and ask what’s bothering him, he says nothing. But it just doesn’t feel that way, no one can look like that and be happy?
he puts on a smile with DC, though I know he’s finding being a dad harder than he thought. He’s sometimes quite lazy and doesn’t come out with us a family often.
he’s been like this more since we’ve had DC.
the confusing part is that he still makes plans, he’s booked just me and him a break away next year so he does still make an effort this way and makes me wonder if I’m worrying about nothing. And we go on date nights very occasionally so once every two/three months due to lack of child care and these are nice nights out, but in between these he’s just miserable and it gets me down.
it’s making me feel lonely in general. and I’ve told him how I feel but he sees nothing wrong.
Am I being over sensitive?