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Like on Facebook post

27 replies

Martsem · 11/08/2023 18:31

My boyfriend posted a picture on Facebook today. I saw there was 1 like and when I clicked on it no name showed. It is quite clear this person has blocked me. I have asked him who it was as I am intrigued. I know it is likely someone who probably fancies him and doesn't like me. Really strange because he posts photos of us up so they will still see my face anyway. I am actually weary now as I want to know who this person is and what is their motive. Anyone had this issue before?

OP posts:
Neverseenbefore · 11/08/2023 18:35

Why are you weary? Has he done this several times before?

Hiddenvoice · 11/08/2023 18:36

Has he told you who it is?
I know it’s hard but try not get too bogged down about this and start to worry. It could be anyone, not necessarily someone who likes him but sorry to say someone who may not like you.

Shurleyknot · 11/08/2023 19:13

Weary as in tired that it keeps happening or wary of who has done it?

jelly79 · 11/08/2023 19:47

This is a lot of conclusions to be drawn from 1 like

What's the backstory? If there isn't one I think you are paranoid

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Martsem · 11/08/2023 19:49

He was honest and showed me who had liked the post and said the woman must have auto lock on her profile so people don't see any trace of her. So devious she is. Wants to know everyone's business but won't even put up a profile picture.

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VWT5 · 11/08/2023 19:50

Get your boyfriend to show you on his FB page….

yogasaurus · 11/08/2023 19:52

I know it is likely someone who probably fancies him and doesn't like me.

Has he given you reason to be so paranoid?

andloqa · 11/08/2023 19:52

It's a bit crazy to be checking who is liking your boyfriends posts.

fettuccini · 11/08/2023 20:21

Martsem · 11/08/2023 19:49

He was honest and showed me who had liked the post and said the woman must have auto lock on her profile so people don't see any trace of her. So devious she is. Wants to know everyone's business but won't even put up a profile picture.

What a weird take on privacy.

ImpossibleGirl86 · 11/08/2023 20:24

Doesn't necessarily mean she has you blocked. My Facebook is set so only friends, sometimes only I can see my interactions. I don't want everyone else knowing my business, nothing shady about it. 🤷🏻‍♀️

WunWun · 11/08/2023 20:25

Make a second Facebook account and look at the post from that account.

WunWun · 11/08/2023 20:26

Then you'll be able to tell if she's only blocked you or if no-one can see her activity

HowToSaveAWife · 11/08/2023 20:38

Martsem · 11/08/2023 19:49

He was honest and showed me who had liked the post and said the woman must have auto lock on her profile so people don't see any trace of her. So devious she is. Wants to know everyone's business but won't even put up a profile picture.

Based on your attitude, I don't blame her for blocking you. Blaaaaady hell.

QuaversAndRedbull · 11/08/2023 20:43

Martsem · 11/08/2023 19:49

He was honest and showed me who had liked the post and said the woman must have auto lock on her profile so people don't see any trace of her. So devious she is. Wants to know everyone's business but won't even put up a profile picture.

So you know her? If you know she's devious and always wants to know other peoples business you must know her so why do you care if she has a profile picture with her face on or not?

If you don't know her and you're just assuming she must be devious and wants to know your partners business, why do you assume that? Has he cheated already and damaged your trust and self esteem so much that you think this is a sign he's cheating again?

If he's not cheated and has never given you any reason to think he's cheating then ut sounds some unhealthy jealousy on your part. If you know her maybe she's blocked you because she knows you read way too much into innocent stuff. Why do you care what she looks like? Comparing yourself to other women's looks to feel more secure in your relationship isn't good for your own self esteem.

If there's no trust then you're relationship is doomed.

WhatADrabCarpet · 11/08/2023 20:45

You've got a trust problem.

pictoosh · 11/08/2023 20:54

So, why is it you are worried about this?

liveforsummer · 11/08/2023 20:57

Devious as she only wants to be visible to people she actively knows? Odd thing to assume!

NooNakedJacuzziness · 11/08/2023 21:02

"She wants to know everyone's business" - she just liked a photo! think you're reading waaay too much into this.

multisurface · 11/08/2023 21:03

Weary or wary?

HolyMoleyGuacamole · 11/08/2023 21:04

Auto lock on profile? What's that?

HolyMoleyGuacamole · 11/08/2023 21:05

Who is the woman anyway? What's her story?

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Martsem · 11/08/2023 21:26

HolyMoleyGuacamole · 11/08/2023 21:04

Auto lock on profile? What's that?

Apparently they lock down their profile that hard they are invisible to most people on Facebook. My boyfriend said some people do this to hide affairs - obviously he has not messed around with her.

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Zoologydragon · 11/08/2023 21:33

My FB profile is completely locked down - if you aren't my friend I don't exist. Perhaps the person is similar

HolyMoleyGuacamole · 11/08/2023 21:42

Zoologydragon · 11/08/2023 21:33

My FB profile is completely locked down - if you aren't my friend I don't exist. Perhaps the person is similar

How do you do this?

QuaversAndRedbull · 11/08/2023 22:29

Apparently they lock down their profile that hard they are invisible to most people on Facebook. My boyfriend said some people do this to hide affairs - obviously he has not messed around with her.

Is that the only reason your boyfriend have you, did he give you the many other reasons people have their profiles locked down to strangers to make you feel less insecure? Are you sure he's not enjoying the idea of you being so jealous like this?