Me and this guy used to be on the same project. We became best friends and I think we developed feelings for each other. He used to post comments on my Facebook pictures etc hinting it but never actually said anything to me which annoyed me. I hate games. We both left around the same time and he bought me a gift…but still never said anything. He used to compliment all the time to my friends etc.
We went out separate ways and he got married and we didn’t speak etc. He rang me out of the blue once asking me advice on his gf…which I found bizarre then I never heard from him again.
Fast forward, I got engaged and he pops out of the blue saying he’s divorced and wondering whether I’m with someone. I told him I’m engaged. He then told me that he wished he pursued me and he regrets it. I was annoyed with him as why now?? and we just stopped talking and I didn’t do anything about it.
Fast forward 10 years later and he’s somehow found a way to contact me again. He’s interested in my marital life and career. He takes ages to reply…but I don’t know what’s happened to me but I keep thinking what if now? Did I make a mistake? We had such good chemistry, we both work in the same field. Were we meant to be? I love my husband but I don’t know why him coming back to my life has made me question everything? Is it the mundane everyday life?
He keeps reminiscing with me which makes me keep thinking about our time back. Am I just missing my youth?
Part of my thinks I only said no to him the second time because I was annoyed he didn’t “choose me first”.
I have a good life with my husband. He gives me everything, we have a lovely daughter. We’ve had our ups and down.
I don’t think the other guy wants an affair because we are both Indian and it’s just frowned up (I know affairs are frowned upon anyway but mix in culture as well).
I don’t know why he contacted me. I keep thinking is he not happily married? He found someone online and married her from what I’ve been told.
Please put things in perspective. How can I stop thinking what if??!!