Hurt and upset

[Cj777]

Hi

Well I have posted twice before about breaking up with my partner of ten years, we were staying friends but it was so hard and painful that today I had to say I couldn't do it, I needed some space. It's making me feel anxious after every meet up I was overthinking as he was giving me so many mixed signals.
He was holding my hand, cuddling me, we went for meals, drinks, walks everything he was texting and calling lots every day. But he still didn't want a relationship.
I couldn't handle it anymore it's been about 7 weeks now and I am no better or done any healing at all.
Today was my breaking point even know I don't want to not see him I just know I can't right now.
Any advice or anyone been through similar

Rip the bandaid off. Tell him you can be “friends” ten years from now but for now you will act like strangers

Don’t explain yourself to him or make excuses. Just reclaim your independence! You need the time and space to rediscover yourself without him.

Draw a line, no contact, it's the only way, otherwise your just prolonging the pain. Focus on yourself, not him. Keep busy, practice self care.

Sounds to me like he was leading you on, I would cut ties as well tbh. You’ve done the right thing, focus on you and find out what makes you happy.
wish you all the best x

Have you seen this thread?
Some of their ideas might help you
The getting a life thread | Mumsnet

So hard but I have done it, felt awful for the first few hours then I kind of felt free. I couldn't be up and down anymore and hanging off his every word, have chatted with my friends and family and feel a bit better now

You’ve done the right thing, you can start to heal now x

You are very brave and you are heading in the right direction. He is acting like a prick sending mixed signals. He probably enjoys this situation and I wouldn't be surprised if he didn't accept you taking distance.

Today you have done some healing. You've recognised that for your mental health / peace / need to heal that being 'friends' interrupts that.

You should be proud of yourself. I know it's lost in the pain but you are on the right path.

Yeh block him so you are not even expecting a communication. I had to go zero contact with a man once, won't go in to why but it's hard at first but it is worth it.