Cheating

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I have found out my ex was cheating for most, if not all, of our relationship. He seemed so crazy and besotted about me. This is what I can't get my head around. He was talking about marriage and all sorts. Seemed genuinely happy. I did so much for him.

He dumped me eventually. Probably for someone else. But it's obvious he just wants sex with lots of different women.

He denied, denied, denied, even when I found him on a dating site.

It stings so badly and I am left feeling so confused. Was it all a lie?

There are some men who want the secure loving relationship with someone they like being with, and sexual variety with a number of women with whom they don't build much of a relationship with.
It's hard for us women to get our heads around, I know, but I would say that it probably wasn't a lie, but that he is unable to give you the monogamous relationship you want.

Yes it was a lie, he conned you like multiple other women. You need to take on board, it's his issue, not yours, it's nothing you have done or indeed could have prevented. You had a lucky escape.

It could be a case of the phrase Men are from Mars & Women are from Venus, which in your situation I'm using because us women can't comprehend some of the things men do or say ( & vice versa)
Like male genetics have built them with the instict to sow their seeds and not get so emotionally connected to the opposite sex. Us females generally are caring and nurturing.
So to possibly make it easier for you to settle your mind, he could have his heart with you, it's his d**k that wanders.

He was probably saying the same sorts of things to other women - good way to get what he wants.

He promises a future and enjoys the idea of being in love so he's all enthusiastic, but it's shallow as a puddle.

He might indeed have absolutely believed the words when he was saying them, but just wasn't the sort of reliable person, so just changed their mind depending on who they were with at the time.

Says a lot about him, just know that it says absolutely nothing about you.

Let yourself grieve for what he might have been, sadly he just didn't have it in him to be the sort of decent man you deserve.

Dear OP
Hope you are doing okay..
It's cathartic to share your feelings it helps

Not a lie that he thought you were great and attractive and cool and fun as I'm sure you are!
But a lie that he could be a monogamous good partner - he might have wanted to be and convinced himself he could, or otherwise, but it's him that was the dishonest selfish one. That doesn't mean he has bad taste in girlfriends though a selfish prick like that would only go for the very best 😊