Is it best to forget her?

[Silvafoxu]

I got talking to a younger woman at work about four years ago. It's a big company so we tend to run in to eachother only weekly. We were quite flirty at the beginning but she then mentioned her boyfriend in passing. I was a bit gutted but having been cheated on in the past, I didn't act on anything, we just carried on being friendly.

She's still with the guy but regularly asks me out for coffee, refers to me as handsome, gives me a lot of hugs and texts a lot. She's a lovely person but should I just forget about her? I always get the feeling she'd leave her boyfriend if I admitted how I feel but I guess I could never be 100% and he seems a nice enough guy to be honest.

Yes. Back off. She's doing this while she has a boyfriend it's wrong and you need to place a line there

Why would you want a relationship with someone who openly disrespects their partner?
Yes, I'd forget about it. You'd never be able to trust her!

I think she may have feelings for me but is she really doing anything wrong if she's not acting on her feelings? Or is this all evidence that she is acting on it?..

I would back off and try distance yourself. If she likes you then she should end it with her boyfriend first.

Sounds like she likes your attention. And also sounds as though she is disrespectful to her boyfriend. Even if she split with him, would you want to be her boyfriend, knowing how she behaves with other men? Yes, you should forget about her.

Agree. I have a friend like this. She really loves attention from men. Despite being married she's a dreadful flirt with other men. She flatters them, makes them feel they have a special connection with her. She does it purely for attention. She has no desire to actually be with them or leave her husband. She's very attractive and I've seen several men actually fall in love with her while she plays her games.
I'm not saying this woman is the same but your post reminded me of her.

How much younger is this 'younger woman' @Silvafoxu ?

@WallaceinAnderland 17 years younger. She's early thirties.

I think it's likely that she just sees you as a friend or a sweet 'older man'. Unless you can give an example of what the flirting looks like or what she messages you that is anything other than friendly?

With that age gap l would think she just sees you as a nice older man that she can have a playful little flirt with. She probably thinks she makes your day!

You might not be wrong there.

I do a lot of maintenance work and she once said she has a thing for watching handy men work. She hasn't really said anything for a while but yesterday when I saw her, she texted me a bit later on to say chatting with me always makes her feel better. I think it's the way she's always grabbing me for a hug too which makes me wonder.

Could be sweet old man, asking you out as a safe old friend or could be she fancies you i don't know. Ask her if she'd date you if she was single.