Would you drop this man?

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Chatting to a man , seems
Ok but at times his questions feel like I'm being interviewed for a role as a partner. He can come across as quite suave and say things like ... how are you still single and other such nonsense .
We text a bit back and forth and we ring each other each night but having text him yesterday, he never replied and was online intermittently all night.
Kind of feel like leaving this one off.
Don't get much impression he is very interested and I really don't want be an option or an interviewee.
Am I being unreasonable here ?
Obviously I know I can finish anything at any time but was interested to know your opinions ? Thanks .

If it doesn’t feel right at this early stage then it’s time to move on.

I think you're over thinking it. He's just some random guy on the internet that you've never met. I wouldn't give him a thought one way or another. I wouldn't contact him or drop him because he'd mean nothing to me. I'd just let it coast and not be invested either way.

Kind of feel like leaving this one off.

That's the only response you need to listen to.

I wouldn't continue chatting with him based on what you've said.

You think he talks nonsense and now he's ignoring you, I wouldn't think twice, I'd move on.

You haven't met? I wouldn't regularly chat and phone someone I hadn't met. If you meet them in real life then you can tell if they're not your type, or are weird, and it's less of a guessing game.
Before I meet someone, they can only be an option or interviewee to me.
Or have you met?

If he doesn't seem interested I would ask him on a date. If he says yes then meet in person and see what vibes you get. If he says no or makes excuses- drop him.

Also in relation to feeling like you're being interviewed......is that not really what dating is about? haha. Interviewing for your protentional life partner. When I was dating I certainly had questions I would ask in order to determine if this was a person I would want to be with.

Hope that helps x

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Echoing others - trust your gut here. If you're already questioning it, throw this one back.

I just don’t think you can tell without meeting him in real life. Messages get really misconstrued. I remember trying to flirt and be a bit coy with a man and he thought I was up myself and a complete twat. I remember thinking that I played it totally wrong.

It's a tough one because realistically he doesn't owe you daily communication and he's obviously going to be asking questions and probably speaking to other women too.
However if it doesn't feel like your kind of thing then you're best off dropping him now.

Oh God, I used to hate the interview dates. It seems to be a common thing and widely accepted to check compatibility by running through a list of questions at the first date or even prior to meeting up, but it’s an absolute turn off for me. I think it’s more important to have fun and let the conversation flow naturally, some important Qs around values and compatibility can still be covered in the weeks to follow. On that note, I would move on if you don’t feel that there’s chemistry.

If in doubt do nowt I would say.