Would you break up with someone in this situation?

[nofuturewithout]

I am head over heels for a man who doesn’t love me and it’s killed our relationship. We are perfect for each other in every way other than the fact he doesn’t love me. We have THE best times together and he makes mw laugh. The sex is phenomenal. I tell him I love him everyday and he never responds. I’ve asked him if we are just sex and he says no but when I ask him how he feels about me he says he doesn’t know which I have taken it to mean that he doesn’t love me. I have tried so hard to be happy but this unreciprocated love hurts. It makes me so frustrated that I can’t be happy sometimes when we are together. I work away part of the week and he never misses me. I miss him all of the time and he’s all I think about. I know we are perfect for each other but I am falling more deeply in love with him and I’m worried of the effects if this on my mental health knowing he doesn’t love me back. Do I keep waiting? Or do I walk? I really can’t imagine a life without him. I am 46 and want to be in a relationship. If I leave then I know it’ll take me months and months to get over him but at least I would have a chance to be happy with someone. As I typed that I realise I don’t think I will ever get over him and I will be alone forever. Wwyd?

@nofuturewithout you deserve to be loved back and this man isn't who you think he is. You are projecting your heart's desire onto him and he can't match the person you want with the person he really is.

It's time to let go and move on. While you are clinging to your DP, you aren't out there looking for the real deal.

Don't waste your time on a man who tolerates you. Go find someone who will show you what it feels like to be wanted, desired and truly loved.

I am going to stay with him but try to emotionally distance myself from him. I won’t tell him I love him anymore. I just can’t lose him right now. Need to fall out of love with him.

That's not going to work OP you really need to just walk and and ghost him .. it's the only way .. doing this will hurt but also be very empowering

Oh OP, you do know how badly this is probably going to end? He's not that into you, and you're projecting all of your relationship ideals on to him. He's not perfect for you, and if you were perfect for him he would have made it very clear to you. For your own health and self esteem you need to throw this one back in. Otherwise he will just keep you around until his perfect partner does show up or he gets bored of you.

Why do people post such awful, unnecessary things like this?

You aren't perfect for each other as he doesn't feel the same way about you as you do him. Please disengage from him for the sake of your mental health.

If you intend to stay with him then perhaps don't be so available and obvious (sorry) about how you feel if it's not reciprocated.

Oh OP, sorry. This is really sad, and must be ready hard for you 💐 You sound like a lovely person who deserves to be loved! So, pick yourself up, finish licking your wounds, and go find someone who deserves you! Love yourself first.

I wonder what is so important to you to hear the words, if his actions say he does love you.
Everything you describe does sound like a great relationship...why are you so hung on up those three words ?
I'd suggest you have some therapy to work out whether you are self sabotaging a perfect relationship or infact it's not perfect after all