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Unhappy person

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feelingbummedout · 08/08/2023 19:03

How can I be a better person? Since I had a baby, 1 year ago, I just feel like I'm always so snappy, irritable and unhappy all the time. I'm so impatient and snappy to my DH and I am rarely affectionate and certainly don't want sex. It doesn't help that I absolutely hate my post baby body, have never felt less attractive and we have no money as I'm only working part time (I'm upping to 3 days next month).
I'm so worried I'm going to lose him, but I just don't feel happy about anything. I am constantly teary and miserable and most likely awful to be around. It's our anniversary next week, and I don't feel like celebrating as it feels we have nothing to celebrate which I know isn't true - it's just everything feels so bleak.
He's a great dad and pulls his weight around the house and I love him so much. I just wish I was like other people: I see them with their kids and families doing normal things and being happy and being able to enjoy life so why can't I?
Does anyone have any advice? I am aware I'm not nice at the moment and would like to be happy and show my DH I love him.

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Waterweir · 08/08/2023 19:12

Well done for posting.
Babies are hard and they are tough on marriages. Other posters may suggest PND. Are you back at work? Having a life away from the baby sometimes helps. Talk to your husband and apologise. Try and plan small things that will help lift your spirits
I have just suggested to a poster on another thread that you ring Samaritans and just pour everything that is wrong into someone else's ear. Don't hold back, just let it all out. You may find it really therapeutic and it might help sort out your feelings about things you are unhappy with.

feelingbummedout · 08/08/2023 19:14

@Waterweir thank you so much for your kind reply. I really appreciate it. I will take your advice.

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