Advice for online daters

[Crackingcheddar]

my friend has found out the guy she’s been dating from Hinge was sleeping with two other women at the same time and sometimes on the same day

he obv wasn’t upfront about this and nor did she ask. She didn’t assume this would be happening! She thought the guy only had eyes for her!

wanted to share here so other women aware this is going on. I may be older and more traditional and not aware of what’s going on with dating these days

Unfortunately, it is very common when you meet people on OLD (or in real life where you have no other context/connections) even if you have discussed exclusivity with the other person. There are usually signs in terms of unavailability/disappearing from time to time but lots of people are very good about providing plausible explanations and covering it up.

How long were they dating and had they agreed they weren't seeing others?

Opinions differ on this and it isn't great form to imply that you're really into someone when still playing the field but it's easiest to accept that OLD users may be dating others until exclusivity is established so it is necessary to do so.

May not seem the most romantic thing but it saves heartache to establish where you stand with someone before getting too involved. To be fair, if your relationship is progressing after a few dates and they don't want to see how things go exclusively then it's a pretty good sign they're either not that keen or don't want the same thing.

They didn’t talk exclusivity from what my friend told me but he suggested she was the only woman he was dating and bought her a gift, cooked for her etc

she didn’t think to ask which may be naive now, how these things work now

I think it’s terrible