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What is love

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okiedokie1 · 08/08/2023 13:13

A question asked by poets and artists and philosophers since the beginning of time but what do you think love is?
Back in the day, many marriages/unions were of a practical nature and romantic love was not something everyone felt was necessary for a good union. In modern times in the west we have more of a sense that romantic love is essential to a good union and physical attraction but that throws up all sorts of issues in life when one partner 'goes off sex' and what that does to the union.
What makes us so connected to one person that we want to forsake all others (or plan to even if it doesn't pan out that way). It has to be more than respect, rubbing along well together, liking each other and having similar values as one would expect this from friends. What is this bond we call love?

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shortnotsweet1 · 09/08/2023 17:22

okiedokie1 · 09/08/2023 15:24

But very few people who have been together 30 years still feel giddy and snog each others faces off. Some might but most don't. So are you saying that they are no longer in love?

I know people who have been together 30 years and are still stuck to each others hips, I work in a care home where I've seen couples that have been together that long and are still madly in love. But I get your point because I think the vast majority of long lasting marriages definitely aren't like that. And yes, I'd say they are no longer in love. Maybe they have love for their OHs, but in love, I'm not so sure. I think most really long marriages are because they're happy enough getting through life together...but if they were honest I bet the "love" or most of it has gone. Could be wrong obviously

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