Hi all a bit of a long thread but if anyone can offer any advice I would appreciate it greatly. So I have 3 adult children all independent the last one is buying her own home soon so it will leave the nest empty.
Their dad and i separated amicably years ago when they were younger and I bought my own house from the proceeds of the matrimonial home we shared.
I remarried after a couple of years to someone who has no assets due to gambling debts which I only discovered by accident 5 years ago through opening his mail. This caused us to separate for awhile as i felt utterly betrayed and unable to be around him. He stayed at his parents home for awhile but we eventually found our way back together and he moved back in.
Last year I discovered messages on his phone to an ex GF and when confronted said he had been helping her out as her husband had beaten her up and left her. We have been separated for 8 months now because of this. He lives with his parents and we see each other for nights out as we are working at saving the relationship. We've had a good marriage with lots of of fun and good times. when the two bad bits are removed i just feel stuck at the moment.
I sold my long term home 3 months ago and am now mortgage free I can afford to live alone. Youngest is about to move into own home and I'll be on my own. I don't want to lose another marriage I'd rather work at it but I feel sad and alone. I'm coming up to retirement age and never imagined it would be like this. Thanks for reading.