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Hope after divorce

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FizzyPop31 · 07/08/2023 20:14

Hi all...
I just wanted to share to people who may understand and to not burden friends and family as all this has been heavy on them too.

I had a really rubbish marriage which ended after 7 years when I was pregnant with my first child. My child is now 4 and the light of my life.

During the marriage I feel there was emotional abuse and I felt my emotional needs were not met at all really. :(

I've had a lot of counselling around all this but I find it all upsetting still at times.

My ex does not ever take any responsibility for his actions towards me and for the fact he left me whilst pregnant for another woman. He has since had a baby and married her but still sees my little one.

Every now and again I get messages Implying I'm a crap Mom Hmm of course this is very upsetting and offensive. Considering how I had to dig deep emotionally and give my little one all I could whilst picking myself up from being totally shat on tbh.

But I've got a new partner now :) it's been about 9 months and it feels things are going really well and I feel really cared for.

I want to believe things can be wonderful but look what happened last time?
How can I be happy with my ex in the background still wearing me down?

Has anyone else been through an awful relationship and then gone onto a wonderful one? Please give me some hope Flowers

OP posts:
bevvy81 · 10/08/2023 07:32

Oh gosh - I'm kinda kinda in your boat too. Desperately hoping that there is hope! My marriage of 17 years went down the pan as my husband had an affair. I'm now recently divorced. Met someone else who I actually have known since a teenager, 6 months in and hopeful but overthinking everything & just have the 'fear' it won't work out. But my pragmatic self is trying to reassure me that 'what will be, will be' and no experience is wasted. So I'm trying to just stay positive & go with the flow xx

bevvy81 · 10/08/2023 07:34

Oh and I too have an ex in the background wearing me down still due to his behaviour- we have kids together so I'm never going to be fully free from him. I'd love to never see or speak to him again but no such luck!! We deserve happiness and I do believe it's out there. X

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