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Awkward situation - help me out pls....

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sandybeaches74 · 07/08/2023 07:21

So I've been seeing a guy for a while and we are going on holiday to one of the Greek islands on Wednesday, the trip has been planned for a few months. The only issue is, over the last few weeks I have started to realise that he is not the one for me and I am feeling more and more awkward about the trip. We don't live together, we don't see each other all that often, we are good friends as well as anything else. The trip can't be changed, I really have to go. Help me - how would you handle it... would you say something? Or not say anything? I am feeling more and more stressed about it - help!

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CurlewKate · 07/08/2023 08:11

@MadamWhiteleigh "I’m just saying that it’s not as easy as some posters are making out - ‘the money’s gone anyway’ - because it’s someone else’s money at stake as well."

She's not stopping him going!

Symphony830 · 07/08/2023 08:18

I’d recommend telling him before you go and see where that conversation leads. He might step down from the holiday so you don’t have to if you really want to go.

It could make for a very unpleasant ordeal being irked by someone who has other ideas ie romantic ones about how things might pan out between the two of you.

I once spent the weekend in the company of a man I didn’t want to be in and it was so uncomfortable fending him off and everything that irked me about him was magnified - along with a whole new batch of things that I turned my nose up at. I managed one night and a day. Was so relieved when he made up an excuse to leave early. That night alone in my hotel room I was SO HAPPY.

User5653218 · 07/08/2023 08:32

Is it a week or longer? Is there the possibility of either you or him dropping out and someone else taking your place?

I think a week sharing a hotel room with someone who wants intimacy with you when you don't would be very difficult and draining.

Icycloud · 07/08/2023 08:43

Pretend to be sick
then ghost

Pudmyboy · 07/08/2023 09:16

DustyLee123 · 07/08/2023 07:39

The money has already gone, you’ve paid it. It makes no difference if you go or not.

This!

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sandybeaches74 · 11/08/2023 07:28

Just wanted to give an update on this, I had the chat, we are going as friends and he is happy with that, as am I. It was far better to broach the subject before the holiday so we were both on the same page.

Thanks all for your support Flowers

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BCBird · 11/08/2023 07:35

That great. Have a wonderful time

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