Pass agg comments from DM

[Ledudu]

DM is staying with me for a few days and communication has been… difficult. My dad likes a bit of whisky every now and then, and she has taken some of this to give to me (?) - basically, to take it from him. I think it’s pretty tragic, he’s a pensioner, give him a break.

I said I didn’t want it and she has now declared she will flush it down the toilet.

I replied that it was quite a weird thing to do, maybe just give it back to him and her response “just because you’re unhappy, don’t take it out on me”.

that’s really hurt me. I’ve just moved into a new house with my boyfriend of 2 years, generally pretty happy, things are going well. Why say that? She really has no self awareness and any criticism real or perceived is taken like a cup of cold sick

Does his drinking cause problems in their relationship?

I'm guessing it must do?

No it doesn’t at all.

he drinks twice a week. My mother is bored and likes to control people. She believes that him having max three drinks twice a week will kill him. He’s 78 and in very good health. Let him live a little…

She sounds horrible.
Tell her to do whatever she want with the whisky but that she can get out your house if she is going to treat you badly. People like this treat people terribly and seem to have people around them that will allow it to continue. Don’t allow her to treat you badly. She said something unkind so tell her if she wants to cruel she can leave.

Perhaps he’s drinking more than you know.

You are showing a certain lack of awareness yourself. You don’t even seem to be wondering if there is a bigger problem here than is immediately obvious.