Confused

[Cj777]

Hi

So my partner and I broke up 6 weeks ago now and about two weeks ago he moved out but since we have seen each other every day, still hug,kiss, get on.

But he says he doesn't want a relationship anymore until he sorts his head out, I am still hurt and upset by it as I thought we could make it work together.

Confused about why is is still seeing me and being affectionate etc?

Any advice

He wants to be single, have no commitments and to go play the field whenever he wants. But he wants to keep you dangling on a string for emotional support, friendship and occasional sex if he can’t find it elsewhere. You are the fallback option. I’m sorry if that’s painful. He wants to have his cake and eat it too……. and you are allowing this to happen, it has succeeded for him. Sorry, I don’t mean this in a mean way. An ex boyfriend did the exact same thing to me and it was so painful. I was so in love with him and desperately didn’t want to break up, so I allowed him to walk all over me. I didn’t see it at the time, but it was clear to see afterwards. One day I snapped and told him it was all or nothing and sent him packing - if he didn’t want to be in a committed relationship with me then there was zero friendship, zero emotional support and definitely zero sex. I didn’t hear from him for two weeks but then he came crawling back begging me back, he’d made a mistake, I was the love of his life, he couldn’t live without me etc etc. But too much damage had been done and I couldn’t take him back. It took me a long time to get over but I met someone else far better and it was totally the right decision.

Oh OP, please please go no contact! He's stringing you along so he can feel better about himself. He can keep a script in his head to get out of feeling guilty because how could he possibly be the bad guy if you're still talking to him and having sex with him.

Please remember this: everyday he is choosing to not be in a relationship with you. He's actively making this choice Every. Single. Day.
You deserve better than that.

Please just stop responding to his messages. Time to go cold turkey.

Yeah, I'm afraid cut this guy off he's taking you for a mug and playing on your heartbreak.

He cheated at the beginning and also does have a child I guess since he's visiting. That should be enough reason.

However, the guilt he refers to is contradictory. If he feels so much guilt to the point he's broken up with you, how come he can still meet up and do things and have also have sex with you. If he actually felt guilty to that degree, he would let you go.

Know it hurts and it's hard but you are more than somebody's option and there will be someone out there who wants you fully and will be loyal too.

He's keeping you on a back burner while he sees what else comes along.