Is he being honest?

[Shara45]

I’ve met someone who I really like.I’m 40 and he’s 28.
He has said the age difference is not a problem as it’s about the person and the connection rather than a number.
We don’t live near each other but he has promised he’ll come and visit asap. Now, I have trust issues and I’m wondering if I’m setting myself up to get hurt.
He texts every day, is very sweet I suppose if he didn’t like me he wouldn’t bother. I feel like a teenager again it’s ridiculous !
Thoughts?

I have had 2 relationships with younger guys similar age gap. Both ended up leaving me for girls their own age 🥲

I'm 38 and my fiance is 25. Been together nearly five years. Works for us! There has never been a second of doubt that it was right and luckily the people in our lives haven't made any rude comments. Not to our faces anyway!
Don't let the age difference be a reason to not give it a go.

7 year gap between me and my husband, been together 15 years! Age is just a number if you really like someone.

thanks for all the lovely replies.
Just not sure where we are at tbh we’re planning on seeing each other, text daily and I’m not seeing anyone else he says he’s not either

I don’t think I’d want to be “planning to see each other” for long. If he lives too far for you to just set up a date nice and easily then this doesn’t sound workable before you even think about the age difference.

To be honest, and I know everybody’s different but, I’d take it all with a pinch of salt until you’ve met in real life and can get the measure of him in person. I’d be very wary of the daily sweet messages if we hadn’t met yet. Sounds a bit love-bomby.

Don’t be blinded by his “niceness”. He might have chosen somebody so far away to literally “play away” and not get caught.

He says the age difference doesn’t bother him but words are just words and some guys will say what they think you want to hear in order to get what they want.

If you do meet and it fizzles off afterwards, it could be because (a) you didn’t click in person; (b) he didn’t get what he was hoping for, or (c) he did get what he was hoping for and … mission accomplished….neeeeext…

Proceed with caution. I hope my cynicism is way off the mark..

I agree with all of this.

We have met in person and get on really well and there is amazing chemistry

Pretty sure I read the other day that the brain doesn't stop developing until you hit 25.

If you have "trust issues", I would seek out therapy alongside any relationship. If you don't, you'll tend to recreate the very situation you want to avoid. This is the nature of the unconscious.