Lacking friends in local area

[Trickofthetrade]

Anyone else have very few close friends in the area they live in? I have lots of close friends but they are scatterd all over the place ..I have lived where I do for 10 years and I can't say I have many true friends, it's all a bit "surface" if you know what I mean. I am finding it difficult . Dont feel I fit in, and i have tried .Anyone else the same ?

Yes, I guess I'm the same @Trickofthetrade .

This is the longest I've ever lived in one place but it isn't where my close friends are. I have made local friends that I got close to/really enjoyed their company but they moved - it was always me moving before. Been in fun friends groups but they've fallen away as people move/lives change/true characters are revealed!

I would say I am pretty close friends with one of my colleagues but we see a lot of each other at work so that's enough really (although we are planning to start a hobby group together soon). I've got a few friendly acquaintances/not particularly close friends I go for a walk with now and again and I enjoy level of friendship too.

I'm pretty picky though now - pointless nasty gossiping, subtle put-downs, any passive aggressive type behaviour, over competitiveness/bragging and I won't want to meet up again. I kept a local friend who had these tendencies (not excessive but even so...) for many years too long with increasing boundaries until the final straw came and I realised I had zero interest in meeting up again. I would honestly rather have no friends than people like that in my life at my age (48)!

I think I just want more people to do stuff with locally though rather than have close friends as such (my need for that is filled or at least satisfied with my non-local friends). I'm on a mission to get fitter as I would like to join some kind of fitness/walking/outdoor swimming group - something like that. Not ready yet though!

I think a hobby helps. Same here. Hard meet people or they soo busy lol. We had a walking group. It has fizzled out but I still meet one. So thats positive.