How do I find a place to rent to leave?

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Been with my partner for 18 months. Lived together 4 months. No kids, mid 40s, but I have a pet. I moved into his house, which is in a village a good 30 mins drive from my friends . I have bought a new build off plan but it’s not ready for another 6 months. It’s not working out, just not compatible. I can’t find a flat to rent with a cat for 6 months. Getting turned down. Not had the talk yet with my partner as I want somewhere to go first.

Our plan was for me to sell my flat move to his for a bit so I have less stress of buying my next home. I had planned to sell and buy before I met him, we are just testing the waters. He likes the areas I have been looking so we decided , he will rent his house and move in with me. We have both been stung before so want our own property.

I have been here for 4 months. All I can say is I have been cat fished. Gone is my lovely caring boyfriend who would split chores with me. I do 90% of all cooking and cleaning. I don’t mind cooking but we agreed we would split the cleaning. Not happened. We have discussed it lots and he has excuses like it’s the weekend, I have been working all week. I am tired, hungover etc. we both work full time, plus I go to college on my day off and study.

Most nights I sit and watch him play his computer or scroll through Facebook as I watch tv. I I go out, but not every night. I counted we had 39 mins of conversation that day. If I go to another room to do something he says I am sulking. Friday and football are his nights and I can’t plan anything as a couple. The other night we were out at a gig, his friends wanted to go and I was up for it. My bf said he was tired so we got a taxi home, only for him to say he was going to the local and I won’t want to come as I don’t like it there. We argued that we left a group to go home as he was tired and now he wanted to go to the pub. He didn’t go buy sulked.

When we didn’t live together this wasn’t an issue. He used to be affectionate, but not really now. I feel I am turning into a moaner and deeply unhappy person round him. Which makes us snap at each other and I have lost respect for him as he is a man child that now has a maid. I do love him and he hadn’t done anything nasty We just are not compatible. He is

So where do I find a pet friendly flat

Maybe just wait until your property is ready and suck it up.

Rents are hard to find, especially with a pet. You could look for a house share room and tick pets on spare room, see if there are any. That would be cheapest and most flexible option.

@Ohmylovejune I am trying, but I think we are both miserable. He won’t even make me a coffee as we won’t learn to use the machine!!

Can someone look after your cat for you for a few months so you can rent a room?

Will he look after your cat if you rent a house share room. If he's miserable too, might be what he wants as well?

@LivingitLarge no, everyone I know has pets it kids

@Ohmylovejune no he won’t. He is not keen on animals. Takes care of her, but won’t clean up etc.

https://m.spareroom.co.uk/flatshare/east_central_london Try spareroom.

@Gardenfish but I think I want to live alone.

Just stick it out for 6 months unless your loaded then look at an Airbnb.

But you can't? You said you keep getting turned down?

If there are no rentals and you dont want to stay, your choices require compromise. Luckily not for long by the sounds of it. 6 months and you have a result.

That website also dose short term lets.

Stick it out for the 6 months and just avoid him as much as possible. Do only cooking and cleaning for yourself. Eat before you come home from work. Stop buying anything for the house. Only clean what you use.
Find a night class of some sort to go to.

There's been a change in the law this year which means landlords can't really say no to pets unless they have a really good reason. Try Googling it. If I was in your shoes I would probably find somewhere to rent without telling them I have a cat and then just make sure it doesn't do any damage to the property. If you're only there for 6 months they'd probably only do one house inspection and you could hide the cat for that!

We hid two cats from our landlords for three years - put them and all their shit in the garage for every house inspection. But then when the law changed this year we asked if we could have pets, quoted the new law and they said yes. So we don't have to hide them anymore!

And for everyone telling you to stick it out - 6 months is a LONG time to live with someone who makes you miserable. I don't blame you for not wanting to wait.

@mumof1or2 i might quote that. But when I enquire I get no response or put on a waiting list. It seemed easier to buy a house.

6 months is a long time. He came home all happy from pub. I went to bed. It’s the not helping in anything that is turning me off and thinking that cause we see each other everyday that is enough. It’s lazy and I sm
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Look on gumtree too - they tend to be self managed rather than agency which might be better if you haven't been successful so far. Six months is too long to live like that but rentals are so hard to find atm.

There are very few short term let's that you'll get for 6 months. You said you want to live alone, that's not happening so far because you can't find anywhere. If you're that miserable, move into a flat share for 6 months, and then you'll have all the alone time in the world after that when your own place is ready