Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Don't know what to do

8 replies

Kittyoo · 05/08/2023 19:55

I don't know what to do about my relationship. I've been with my OH for over 6 years. I feel like we just “live” together. We don't talk much about anything. We are both quiet anyway and I think after a busy day at work we enjoy peace. But still….
There's no affection between us. We don't kiss or hug at all. Hes not that type of guy to do this but I always did this in previous relationships.
He moved into my flat but doesn't help out with the housework. I sometimes feel like he doesn't have to as it is my flat after all that I have with my daughter. He doesn't clean the bathroom, hoover, dust. He'll sometimes put the washing on, wash dishes. That's it. I have a cat too, which he does love. But again he sometimes gives him food. Otherwise, he'll leave it to me and the litter tray.
If there's no milk, he won't make the effort to get some, he'll wait for me to get it.
If my daughter wants a takeaway treat I feel like I have to ask him if he wants anything too and he always agrees. Leaving me to pay for it! He never buys any treats for the house or takeaways. But buys expensive designer clothes. I feel like im being used!
I feel like there's nothing in return. He is a decent guy but very lazy. The cleaning issue has been brought before but his excuse was he's a bloke who doesn't see dirt🙄
And he's always on his phone. I'm.cleaning the house after a full days work (I work 45–50 hours a week) and he doesn't even offer to help!
What should I do?

OP posts:
BIWI · 05/08/2023 19:56

What should you do?
Get rid of him!

KirstenBlest · 05/08/2023 19:57

Get rid.

BMW6 · 05/08/2023 20:07

OP you've got yourself a gold plated Cocklodger - but without the cock by the sound of it (or maybe he likes sex, but doesn't give any affection?)

You house him in your home, you pay for him, you cleanup after him, and he gives you in return...........????????

What example are you setting to your daughter?

BMW6 · 05/08/2023 20:09

What you do

Next time he's out, bag up all his shit and throw the fucker out on the spot. Have people with you in case he gets nasty. Change the locks immediately.

Seaoftroubles · 05/08/2023 20:11

Seriously OP, what does he actually add to your life?

AnneLovesGilbert · 05/08/2023 20:12

You are being used.

He’s not a decent guy.

Your daughter is watching you skivvying and paying for a lazy, selfish man and thinking it’s normal. Please set her a better example.

GoodChat · 05/08/2023 20:14

AnneLovesGilbert · 05/08/2023 20:12

You are being used.

He’s not a decent guy.

Your daughter is watching you skivvying and paying for a lazy, selfish man and thinking it’s normal. Please set her a better example.

This. Show your daughter what to do with men who treat her like that and bin him off.

Kittyoo · 05/08/2023 21:46

Thank you for your opinions❤️💔

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page