Cancelled meet up because I didn't text him - advice please

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I met a guy a few months ago though work. We work for the same company but different departments. We exchanged numbers and at the start, he would text me once or twice per week, mostly work related and general chat. I bumped into him a month ago on a night out and since then, we had been texting almost every day, the texts have been very flirty. We would text throughout the day until night. We would also chat on the phone.

We agreed to meet for coffee a few weeks ago and it went great. He texted me afterwards saying he can't wait to see me again and asked if I was available to meet for coffee on Friday . We agreed to meet and both said how much we couldn't wait to see each other again. We were texting each other up to last Saturday night and then I heard nothing from him last week.
I text him on Friday morning and asked him if he was still ok to meet and he replied by saying that he wasn't sure if I still wanted us to meet because I didn't text him and thought I had changed my mind. He said he didn't want to text me because he didn't want to be annoying me and said he'd love to arrange another date (even though we had both agreed on this date). He does initiate most of our texts, but he never mentioned this being an issue before.
I was really hurt but tried not to come across as too clingy, I replied no worries and that I hadn't changed my mind and that I would have let him know if I couldn't have made it. He never responded to this text and I haven't heard from him since. I really like this guy and this has really affected me. I just can't understand the sudden shift from texting everyday to nothing? Should I initiate contact with him again or wait to hear from him?
I would appreciate any advice please.

“In future, set boundaries. No texting every day with some guy you've been on one date with. Keep contact between dates to arranging the dates. And the occasional mid week how's it going chat or meme share.

Don't get hooked on people you barely know. You have to meet them over a longish period of time to suss them out.”

This with bells on. He was getting your time and attention and all you’d done was meet for a coffee. Let men earn your time and attention and your flirtatious texts. Flirtatious texts are a place you should get to once you know the relationship has legs, not where you start. Remember - everyone is special and no-one is special. If he’s in full-on flirtatious text mode with you, without even bothering to see you, then he’ll be doing the same with other women.

Oh horrible game playing
Can’t be doing with that!
Either he’s lost interest and is putting it on you, or he’s massively insecure and easily offended. Neither is good

This ^
Nail.on the head. He's playing you.

Dump. Move on.

Looks like he's helping you to dodge a bullet. Dump him.

Don't initiate contact with him again, he's just playing games.

He's either a flake or an arsehole.

Block.

If ots already complex this early on then it doesn't sound good. Sounds very sensitive to me.

I think you know it will be work out when no one is playing games and counting who texts first. It should be easier than that. I actually don't think that he's definitely a nob, he might genuinely have felt you were cooling off but even if that's the case, once you said you were still up for it he should have continued with the plan, so he's playing games a little I think

Let it cool down. He doesn’t sound that interested if he didn’t want to meet up - for whatever reason.

If you were really that bothered, you would have texted at some point in the week before today. Same for him.

Noone who is really interested in someone just lets it drop like that.

What was the last message sent before the week hiatus?

It sounds as if the contact was quite intense but it seems as if you both enjoyed it.

Did you send him any texts between last Saturday night and Friday?

Why were you waiting for him to text you?

If he had been initiating most of the contact then he might have been checking to see if you were as keen as he was. I would agree that he could have asked you directly but equally I don't think it's hard to understand why he thinks you are not interested.

Sadly I can't see a way forward now that doesn't involve game playing but if you did not send him a single text in six days when he had expressed enthusiasm then I think it was you who blew it.