Lacking body confidence - new date

[RaizeHell]

Hi everyone,

I'm looking for some advice. I'm 42 and I've just met someone on Hinge whose 39. We seem to be getting on well and he has asked me on a 3rd date.

I feel very self conscious as my body is just not what it used to be. I'm worried about intimacy with all my wobbly bits and worried he will soon realise he would rather be with someone younger and more toned. How can I stop feeling like this and ruining something nice.

He has brought me flowers and we seem to click and he has complimented me. I just can't believe someone would appreciate this body of mine.

Any advice? I have started eating healthier , I need to for myself but it will be a slow journey.

Thanks for reading ladies.

I think men watch so much porn that unless you were in padded push up bras and shapewear, he probably has an idea how your body will look naked as the wobbliness should be visible in regular summer clothes.

You're only 3 years older! There are women in their 20s who aren't toned.

I think you either brazen it out fake it til you make it or work on your body and leave dating until you are ready.

PS even hot women get used for the body, get cheated on and dumped. Even if he liked your body he could ghost or end it for any reason. You also might not like his body or performance, I'm sure he is no Adonis with a nine incher coke can thick cock either.

I’ve been in your position. If you have pale skin like me , I do have to say a tan (I use a fake one) helped me enormously to feel more body confident as the wobbly bits and cellulite don’t look as visible. Lots of men like curves too so I’m sure he’ll be able to tell you have some under your clothes. Hold your head high as confidence is the most sexy thing!

@CarlossitaMamacita Your phrasing made me laugh 😃 coke can! You're right, of course. It's just an awful feeling. He is very skinny.

I'm determined to lose weight (for myself) so maybe if he can like me for who I am now that's a good sign.

I absolutely think plus size women can be beautiful and sexy and admire many but I just look frumpy and not nice.

It's my first time dating in years and all my insecurities are tumbling out.

Tan is a good shout @Cherriesandstrawberries . You are 100% right about confidence being sexy which is why I don't want to say anything to him about my low self esteem but it's so tempting as then perhaps he could reassure me. Maybe as well as a tan I could get my hair done. I am a bit of a tomboy so some of the typical self confidence boosters aren't for me (e.g. getting nails done).

Thanks you both! Coke can will stay in my head today.