Why does it hurt so much to end it

[userbellawills]

I have to end my situationship, that's what it's become and I know I can't do it

Met a man 3 and a half months ago, started great, 4 dates in the first two weeks always putting date in for next date before we finished the date we was on etc

Then it stopped became he was busy but we did meet at his late at night usually arranged on the day... but he kept saying he would arrange a proper date

I called him out a few times and each time he says he was interested but was just hectic etc

I finally ended it a month ago and week later he got back in touch, really thought things would change, they haven't

I'm not sure if he was ever really into me or if he was just doing what he needed to to secure what he wanted, he texts me everyday.... seems like a lot of effort just for a shag

I know I need to end this, I really like him but he just doesn't feel the same way, but it hurts and the rejection of not feeling enough is unreal

You need to have a higher opinion of yourself
You like him but he doesn’t like you and things have not changed

Time to end it, recognise it for what it was and prepare yourself to move to another phase of your life - it hurts because you have idealised someone who does not really respect or deserve you ( men will text a lot for a shag - some of them are pretty shallow and frankly it’s quite a cheap way to get your leg over)

Please believe you are worth more than this - respect yourself and consign the last few months to the past

Sounds like he likes the chase and the shag, not the whole relationship thing. Chuck him back.

It hurts because you thought it could be more. You’ve grown attached to him in a short time. Unfortunately , he’s not into you enough to make a real effort.

Hold your head high and move on. The pain won’t last long.