OK. My daughter is 17 as is her boyfriend. Both in 6th form, both applying to go to university this year. They've been together for nearly 2 years.
They are great kids. He comes from a lovely family, is really thoughtful, respectful, kind to her. She is similar. They don't argue, the relationship is lovely tbh. She's said herself that she doesn't expect them to still be together when they go to university because they're applying to opposite ends of the country and they both have great career plans but neither of them is thinking about that now. Neither is a 'problem' in any sense of the word. And she says he's set her a really high bar in terms of what to expect from a relationship in future!
She's quite a homebody - doesn't go to parties, doesn't drink, no drugs and he is the same. He also has HFA so is pretty tight on right and wrong. Both have part time jobs. Just really decent kids.
Anyway, that's just to give you a bit of background/context.
They've both dated someone else for a few weeks previously but this is the first real relationship for both of them.
She is staying at home for 3 nights while my partner and I go away in a couple of weeks. My eldest is coming to stay with her for a couple of nights because they just like to hang out together/for company but she'd have one night alone which she is fine with and quite enjoys (because she gets free rein in the kitchen basically!)
She has asked if he can stop the night that night. I know if I said no, she wouldn't have him to stay. If she hadn't asked, she could have asked him anyway and I'd be none the wiser anyway. But she's respectful like that. And I, in turn, respect her.
My gut feeling is that I don't actually have a problem with it. She has already said that they aren't having sex (due to his HFA). And she's not daft - she doesn't want to get pregnant.
They are in a solid (as it can be at 17!) relationship and love each other. So, if they were having sex, I wouldn't have a problem with it anyway.
Am I being a bit stupid or would anyone else be ok with this? Obviously, you don't know them! But in theory. Just wondered what other people think. Thanks.