Down But Not Out

[Iamisaid]

I’m an older person 70’s but I can’t really relate to Gransnet.
I was with my partner for four years, happily I thought. He has a holiday home abroad which we went to quite often. The last time was this July for three weeks. Apart from going to the supermarket I spent the whole time sitting on the patio dying of boredom, he refused to go anywhere . Cabin fever started to really kick in and I started becoming more and more depressed, not something I’m prone to. When I finally told him how I felt I got ‘this place is obviously not suited to you go and find someone who will take you out and about’. Dumped!

We came home two days later…fortunately, on Saturday. On Sunday his neighbour from abroad called to ask how I was and told me that I was just one of very many women he’d taken there and that he had a date tonight!
I now feel such a fool

Hi @Iamisaid i love your subject title Down But Not Out, i'm going to say that to myself for the rest of my day.
The guy you were with will be missing out on being with a wonderful person (you) so his loss! Xx

Thank you x

On the previous trips to the holiday home was it more enjoyable and you went out and about or has it always been like this?

Either way, if he was able to just tell you to find someone else that easily then line up another date then he’s obviously not that invested or was looking for a reason to end it.

It’s his loss. He might be the type who loses interest easily or is always looking for new excitement. You deserve better than that. I know it’s upsetting and the natural reaction is to feel rejected but you’re not a fool. The relationship has run its course and he showed how boring he is on the holiday which isn’t attractive. Now you can meet someone new who appreciates you or just enjoy time with others who are more fun.

He lives 40 miles from me so quite at liberty to live a double life. The last couple of times over there have been a bit weird.

Good for you! it's his loss and your gain.