I Miss him SO MUCH

[KacyB]

feeling really lonely right now......

My DH works abroad, Monday to Friday, and with the time difference too, I don't get to talk to him more than about 10-15 minutes a day.

We live close to his two kids, but this means we are miles away from my friends and family..........

But, I just feel really alone. I work all day, don't talk to many people and then stay in all night and don't see a soul.

my mum calls every day, but I have to be quite strict with her or she'd take over my life (another thread in itself!!)

My DH is likely to be still working away after our DS is born and sometimes I just dread that.......

I can't ask my DH to not work there, because we need the money (We've made a pact not to reduce the money to his ex and his kids from his first marriage, but this means money will be really tight for us once I've stopped working)

I just feel like a fall between the cracks - I haven't been accepted into the evening antenatal classes because I don't have a birthing partner each week but I don't fall into the single mother catagory either and I also struggle to take time off work, as I am on a contract (which I am desperate not to have terminated early!)

Sorry, long rant....

Oh KacyB,

Its not nice. It will get better, but that comes over time.

In regards to the AN classes, why wont they accept you? it seems silly to me.

Try to keep smiling, keep postive. It does get better xxx

cx

Hi,

(decided on a name change!)

The evening ante natal classes are for couples only and I don't have a birthing partner that can come with me every week.

I have been accepted onto a one day course, which is just for women, but I feel a bit odd about that too, because it's really for single mums (as far as I can see) and that's not me either!

I was in a similar position when I was pregnant the first time, and for the first year after. It was miserable.

I went to my antenatal classes alone.

Once ds was born, it actually became easier for me, as I went out a lot during the day, than it was for DH. Only seeing your baby once a week means you miss out on a lot.

In the end DH left the job because he just couldn't do it any more, and now works away only for a couple of days a week.

Sorry, this isn't really cheering you up is it? But I should stress that once I'd had the baby, apart fromt he whole no sleeping thing , I did a have a pretty good social life.

hi - don't worry about the single mum thing, I went to NCT classes and the ante-natal workshops at the hospital i was having dd in both on my own, my partner couldn't get time off work, and there were loads of others in the same position. I met 3 girls at the hospital classes (which were free by the way - have you checked yours?) who have become my best mates, they are all married, but went to the classes alone. You'll be fine!!! You'll make friends which is the improtant thing.

Hey KacyB come have tea with us - I'm still waiting for client to have her baby.

There is another thread just started for people who's DH/DP's work away, someone with more brains than me c\an post a link.

Whereabouts are you on the country?

Poor you. DH used to ravel away alot for his work, adn like you we had agred that we needed the oney. it does get better, we have come out at the other end (other issues now with juggling the kids and childcare etc).

Push harder on the AN groups. it is discriminatory to not allow you to attend because you don't have a birthing partner - you effectively ARE a single parent at that point! Is it NCT or NHS ones you are looking at?

It will get better. Try to picture how good it will be when the 3 of you are your own little family. And money - well, you just manage because you have to. Try not to worry too much about it. You are doing the right thing getting things set up as much as pos now.

Thanks guys... I appreciate it!!

I do know how lucky I am... really, I do.

Each thing on it's own is fine - it's just all the things together.....

it doesnt help that your preg aswell, hormones and all that!

if you need any antenatal support (questions you forgot to ask, or general moan!)just give me a shout, happy to help you.(website on profile)

my dh works away sometimes and its never easy at first - then you look at the bonuses............tv to yourself, no dirty socks everywhere etc! and appreciate the time to yourself more.

xxx