Life

[Linds89]

Hi I don’t think it’s so much relationship but I feel like running away from my everything my life seems unmanageable my kids one 4 and 16 trash my home to the extent I’m doing a full house clean everyday. I’m tired of it the same old every day I know it’s part of being a mum but I seriously can’t cope no more my mental health has took a real turn, my 16 yr lies in bed playing video games all day cooking and leaving piles of washing up last night my 2 year old peed in my bed after 8 bottles of juice. I’ve been looking at one way trips no lie

Do you have a partner?

Isn’t the 2yr old still in nappies? 8 bottles of juice and no wonder why he’s wet. Maybe reduce / cut the juice and / or put nappies on at night

no he takes the kids on Sunday but that’s it really, yes she’s in nappies but she constantly screams for juice or water before bed. I’m just so stressed I feel as Thoth my life is the same day in day out and nothing will ever change.

She’s drinking so much I change her and by the time she wakes up she’s leaked and unfortunately she creeped into my bed last night.

So you're a single mum! So am I and intotally understand how you're feeling.
Having children is hard and so much harder when you're doing most of it alone

It's like groundhog day everyday...

I'm sorry you're feeling so run down.

You're 16 yo defo needs to step up, there is no way you should be cleaning up after them (does he or she get pocket money?).

Are you working? How is your financial situation?

I tend to try and do stuff on the weekend with thr kids that I also enjoy-going to a museum, going to a festival.

Obviously I don't know where you live?

Any family/friends around? Do you have any other mums/single mums you could meet ?

Can your ex take kids more often?

So sorry, I totally understand where you're coming from

Sending you hugs

Thanks for you kind words i think your name says it all my ex is lazy with the kids going on fancy Holidays and seeing them once a week some men do suck. I was Googling flights one way and imagining me working abroad it’s so bad I’m thinking like this. Yes he gets pocket money he’s just so lazy and my anxiety doesn’t help.

Get your ex to take the kids over the summer holiday so you can actually get away for a few days.

And as for your 16yo- no pocket money unless he does his share, washes the dishes., tidies his room, etc.

You need to start being firm on him and raise him to not be a guy that sucks (I'm not saying that in a.harsh way, I can just tell how much you're struggling, so something has to change otherwise you will burn.out)

@Mensuckbigtime I think I’m to the point we’re I’m burnt out I’d live to spend a few days my friend has a apartment in Mercia but he won’t have the kids he says he struggles. I’m definitely going to firm up with my son

Your ex struggles???
Fuck that! What about you???
I'm sure he wasn't forced to have children and he needs to do his share.

If you burn out, he will have to take care of the kids.

Maybe also time to firm up on your ex.

What a cheek...

Just say you're invited to a wedding and children aren't allowed or you need to help your friend or something.

You shouldn't be doing everything

He’s a joke tbh he shouldn’t have had kids we broke up because he was an abusive sometimes. He seriously won’t have it